Apologies, i don't know where else I might post this. I recently got into Magic The Gathering, and have been playing at my local game store frequently. Over the last couple of months, me and another player have had some less than fun games. I typically only play Commander, which is a multiplayer variant of Magic, typically played with 4 people. This other player has built decks in the past that usually do something I find not fun, be it spawn a bunch of big creatures, make it so he can't be attacked or otherwise lose the game, take infinite extra turns, and so on. So, naturally, I've come to view anything he plays as a massive threat, and aim to remove him from the game as soon as possible. This, perhaps understandably, has made him feel targeted, and seemingly personally attacked by me. In our minimal games, over the course of months, any time I get any bit of leeway over him, or he feels even the slightest inkling that I'm being unfair to his enjoyment of the game, he will quit and storm off. And today was the last straw. He, once again, played a deck that did things I felt were unfair, I stopped him from doing them, and this time, instead of just storming off, he verbally assaulted me, claiming I was personally and intentionally targeting him instead of the other players, and that I was "preventing him from playing the game". By the way, he's like, at least 45 years old. And I did what I always do when I'm assaulted like that: I shut up, shut down, and I cried. In public, in front of like, at least 20 other patrons at the store, I cried. It was so embarrassing, and honestly scary. I wish there was a way to ban him from the store. What he did was assault, in my mind. Verbal, yes, but it psychologically affected me just as if it was physical. All I'm guilty of is playing the game, and doing my best to remove a known threat, and someone known to play powerful, annoying cards if left alone in the game too long. I still want to cry, even now, hours later. One of the other players at the table tried to comfort me, and his heart was definitely in the right place, but his... advice? Pep talk? Whatever you call it, it basically boiled down to "you did target him, regardless of if you felt you had reason to. In Commander, which is multiplayer, that's generally a no-no. However, he shouldn't have reacted like that". And that just... isn't what I wanted to hear. It still isn't what I want to hear now, because it doesn't make sense to me. I had a very logical and understandable line of reasoning: I had experience with this player and previous decks he had built. I've seen cards and strategies he used in the past. So, I aimed for the threat. In my mind, and by my reasoning, I did absolutely nothing wrong. On the contrary, I think I was the smartest player at the table, aiming to remove the known threat as quickly as possible. Apparently, I'm supposed to sit there with my dick in my hand and let the other players kill me instead, to maintain "decorum" in a multiplayer environment. Fuck. That. I will kill the threat, perceived or not, as fast as I can, because if I let the threat get going, I won't have a chance to win. Why give a threat a chance to get going or recover if I can prevent it? Because it's "mean"? Because it's "unsportsmanlike"? THAT. IS. THE. GAME. And if you don't like that, you don't have to play the game. It is as simple as that, and if a 45 year old is going to be a baby when he loses, and a maniacal asshole when he loses repeatedly, he deserves to be banned from the shop. Period.