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I started seeing someone

BrooklynnMB
BrooklynnMB
I've been through depression before and this is the first time I've started seeing someone right in the middle of it. I feel happy when I'm around him. It's weird. But then I'll go right back to feeling depressed. Is this a bad time to start a relationship? It's hard to know how I really feel because when I'm depressed I just lose the ability to make decisions. I'm scared I'll scare him away because I'm not myself when I'm depressed and then I'll get even more depressed.
gramybear
gramybear
Only you know in your heart whether or not this is a good time to start a relationship. Does the man you are seeing know about your depression and is he willing to help and support you? That is very important right now. It's good to know that you feel happy around him. Hugs
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
You scare away 100% of the people you don't even take a chance with!

I guess what I'm saying is that odds are that if you did not take a chance with him you may have lost your chance at a relationship with him forever. But you took the chance, and you have one!

All relationships are subject to ending, but from where I sit you are ahead of the game simply by trying, and way ahead of the game by seeing him!
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I think you should explain to him about your depression and decisions making problem. Tell him you do not want to scare him. If he is a good partner, he should try to help you. He will know more about you.And feel closer to you.
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I'd go slow on the telling him about your depression. Give it some time. Once we tell people we can't UNtell them!
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
You have to TAKE CONTROL of your depression. You own it ... you battle it ... and WIN over it. THAT IS THE 'CURE'.

Yeah .. you could scare him off with it .... so don't splash it on him ... or anyone else .. except a therapist or here on DS.

You are surrendering your whole life to it. Your first priority should not be to let everyone know you are depressed. Depression is not a missing arm ... you don't HAVE to accept it.

Here you are with a new relationship and already you are letting depression chip away at it. It's not a badge to wear.

YOU don't like depression ... and neither does anyone else ... so keep it out of your new relationship.
bridgie101
bridgie101
If he's worth having, he can take it slow enough for you to get through this depressive episode. In a few days you'll be fine, and able to make choices again.

Enjoy your time together, under NO CIRCUMSTANCES tell him about your depression; not for much longer. If I were you I'd never tell him: they start to make allowances, often allowances that aren't necessary and aren't even helpful - and then they become resentful about the allowances they are making, and feel locked into making them forever, and feel more and more trapped till they chew their arm off one night and leave.

Just take it day by day. Spend time happily together. enjoy. :)
billwfriend
billwfriend
congrats on new person in your life....live life to fullest as if no depression is there and keep on fighting to be not depressed....when it goes away you might still be involved with this guy...ok?
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
There are relationship help online.
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