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Angel93
Angel93

Its been a long time since I've been on here and right now I just need to talk.. ive mentioned before how my work place had become toxic and it wasn't good.. well its become worse much worse.. its been effecting me alot, I haven't been sleeping, my mental health has been bad, ive been coming home crying, and back stabbed.. So I made an appointment with my doctor and I told her how I really been feeling and what's been going on and what should I do because I was at my breaking point, so they said I should take a medical leave.. So I tell my boss and the first thing she said to me was what's wrong with you? What am I going to do now?...  all I said was  just following what my doctor told me.. since than my boss has joined her daughter of giving me the cold shoulder and making feel like I don't exist.. this morning my boss came outside and told me she needs a doctor's note and another note if I'm not going to be coming back by Friday or she will have to put quit.. first she said fired but than quickly changed it to quick.. its gotten so bad to the point where my anxiety is so high and I'm scared that something is going to happen to me.. 

LavenderC
LavenderC
Angel93 - I would take a medical leave and return to work as soon as possible if you still plan to keep the job. Hope you sleep well tonight.
honeypeas
honeypeas
Angel, Get the doctors note and take the medical leave. Your boss will have to take you back when you return. Take enough time to get yourself well and than decide if you still want to return or look somewhere else for a better environment.
Thor2008
Thor2008
Good advice on the note. Do the leave and get better then return to work if you want to keep the job. Keep going to the PDoc or TDoc to help you deal with the workplace. Some work environments are harsher than others and you will need to weigh a known evil vs an unknown evil in the workplace.
richierich
richierich
Take the doctors note rest up, when you go back to work maybe speak to your boss and outline any work related goals you may have.
Restful
Restful
My advice: get the doctor’s note, take medical leave, and use that time to find work somewhere else. The whole reason you’re even taking the leave is because this job is toxic, and you shouldn’t have to stay there long term.
cymbaline
cymbaline
I'm assuming you're in the US?
Okay, FMLA requires that your boss allow you 12 weeks of UNPAID leave to deal with this. Your boss doesn't want to *fire* you, since she'd have to pay unemployment. That's why she walked that back and tried to say you're quitting. Then she's off the hook.

So - get the doctor's note, take a breather, and as suggested, look for another job. Seriously, look for another job. If this one is affecting your health, and it's a small business and nothing's going to change, make a plan to move on. No point in staying.

You don't say exactly what is toxic about your work place. I've worked a couple places that were not good. Probably everybody has, so if you want to elaborate, someone here might have some coping skills to pass along. If your area has high unemployment, and your prospects are few, maybe there are things you can do to make it more bearable.
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