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whatswrong19
whatswrong19

My father is sick, they have Hospice coming in,  he is stable right now, but I know the day is coming when he won't be.  My mom is co dependent??? And has some sickness of her own.  My daughter is due to have a baby this month, and just got engaged. I'm single, live alone, with no interest in dating, and I'm feeling really lonely and depressed.  I should be happy for her and the baby's father, who is kind to her, but I just don't trust him,  I don't trust his family either.  It's like they are too nice.  I just feel like shit. I'm missing work today,  I'm sick, but I think I'm sick because of the depression   

shadowlady
shadowlady
Oh honey, I'm sorry. I've been there alone with a seriously ill parent. It really gets to you, dominates your mind really. I'm sure your daughter understands. Try to take care of yourself during this time. Find some alone time. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
Thank you shadow lady. Today is better, still physically sick, but I got some crying out yesterday, and that often helps. It’s hard for me to cry, but when I do I usually get better in a couple of days
m79
m79
I feel for you. I’ve been down that road 3 years ago when my dad was in hospice, and at the same time there were problems in my relationship. Fast forward to now, and kind of the same situation, problems with my husband, and just finding out my brother in law has weeks to live. And my daughter just got engaged and is planning her wedding also. It’s hard to be happy when you’re sad. It’s like you ask yourself ‘what’s the most important thing going on here?’. But you get through it. You cry, you get angry, but it will come to pass. At least that’s what I’m trying to tell myself. Hang in there, and know you’re not really alone though you feel you are.
jannytheresa
jannytheresa
Losing a parent can be really devastating and it seems that this is the primary reason that you're really down is your father's health?
I totally agree with m79: You can't force yourself to be happy
with so much on your plate. You have described a number of issues: your mother, having a gut feeling about the baby's father, feeling sick, missing work. Please take care of yourself and put yourself first.