Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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linny5227 05/25/2017

Since the breakup 4/29, I just keep waking up so depressed. I have accepted that we aren't going to be together anymore. I have accepted that my life will get better and I can be a better person without him, but I always wake up in a funk. It makes it hard to get ready to go to work (which I need to do in order to survive and keep my house). I feel like I'm just coasting through most of the day. Night time can go either way (some nights I am okay, others I have a hard time falling asleep). But every morning, I just feel like I want to curl up in a ball and be alone. Since I was depressed before the break up, I don't know if this just made it that much worse and I wonder when I am ever going to get out of this. :(

enfieldguy 05/25/2017

I feel your pain, some mornings I feel the same exact way and it is very uncomfortable especially having to fake your way through every day life when all you want to do is be sad.

linny5227 05/25/2017

Exactly how I feel. That I am just going through the motions and pretending I'm okay.

Dolphinbeauty519 05/25/2017

I feel like I'm not getting anywere and faking too. Dolphin xx

enfieldguy 05/25/2017

Pretending you are okay is exhausting emotionally and even physically. I'm beyond drained and work never ever stops

WanderingVet 05/25/2017

Breakups can certainly be VERY painful, and I sympathize with you. KNOW THIS ... it will subside over time. I know of nothing else to do but 'wait'. One month is not enough. I do promise it will completely 'go away' ... given time. Hang in there ... and find some happiness every day. The time will go by faster if you do.

linny5227 05/25/2017

I'm trying. And I know it will take time, especially since we were together for so long. I'm just waiting for the day I can wake up and not feel this way. Just feel normal or content.

OllieTree 05/25/2017

Don't stay in bed for too long, okay? Doing that lets your mind ferment and the hopelessness starts setting in. Get up as soon as you can and out of your room, where the prospects seem so much better.

4nkrgg 05/29/2017

It’s hard to deal with feelings that always seem to tag along after the breakup of a relationship. The fact you’ve accepted the reasons for the breakup are very positive. You’re on your way, but it will take time to fully let go of those feelings. You will get through. Believe it! Have faith. And please take care of you.

sharaninmd 05/29/2017

Sorry to hear that you are feeling this way. The break up probably did trigger your depression to worsen. It is hard, but give it more time for you to handle the break up. Try to keep yourself busy with friends to help get your mind on other things.

linny5227 05/29/2017

Thank you everyone! I am working on it. Some days are obviously worse than others. I was able to finally cut all contact with my ex and it seems to help a little bit. I have also started taking mood enhancing supplements my sister suggested as she took them when she had a miscarriage. They seem to help at times.

jclark152 05/31/2017

Youre experiencng oxytocin disappointment. Oxytocin is a hormone produced when we develop a bond with someone. When they leave us the brain knows it wont be getting that dose anymore. In other words youre in withdrawal.. Follow the advice given by others here with this in mind. Deliberately do things that force your mind to not think about your ex. Create a ritual in the morning that you have to follow step by step and keep your mind focused on that. Ive been listening to podcasts recommended by a friend. Keeps my negative depression thoughts at bay

linny5227 05/31/2017

@jclark152 Thank you! Each day is different. This morning I was happy to not wake up with him on my mind! I'm just taking it day by day :)

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