Letting babies, "cry it out" is good for older babies, around 6 mos and up. Newborns have only 1 way to tell someone that something is wrong....they cry. They don't just cry for the heck of it, they're trying to tell you something.

Most newborns (1 -3mos) who don't sleep for long periods of time, have colic or gas. I'd make an appt. with your pediatrician and see about changing his formula. When babies lay on their backs and have gas in their tummy it hurts. When you pick them up, the gas moves, a burp, a toot, or is dissipates. If your breastfeeding and he's crying and not sleeping, he may not be getting enough to eat. Its' hard to measure how much milk they get and if their tummy doesn't get full, they cry if their hungry. So you may need to put him on formula, once again a visit to the pediatrician can help with that decision.

Your not a bad mom, babies don't come with instruction books, it would be great if they did. If your pediatrician checks him out and he's healthy and his food is right. Then you go home and don't worry about what everyone tells you. It won't hurt for your son to take a nap in your bed with you during the day so you both can get some rest. Colic unfortunately doesn't always have a cure, it just has to work itself out. My oldest son slept most in his baby swing, he liked the movement, he didn't care for his crib all that much. My youngest son slept his colic weeks in the vibrating bouncing seat, it helped with the gas. You can't always go by what "is right" sometimes you just have to do what works for you and your baby.

The vacumn cleaner worked great on my youngest son as well. lol

Hang in there and know that your a good mom and things will settle down.

The fact that you are trying to figure out how to take care of your precious child is key that you are, in fact, a wonderul mommy. You DO need your sleep though. Do you have anyone that can come watch your baby while you take a nap?? I know exactly how you feel about being exhausted. I went through that with my daughter the first month. I was so exhausted, all I did was cry all day and night. With the help of my parents stepping in so I can get some sleep, I don't know how I would have gotten through it. Please call a close friend or relative to help you so u can get some sleep. It's super important you take care of yourself for your son because he needs your strength. God bless.

It has been a while since you posted this. How are you all doing?