if i could do it over again, i would stop listening to everyone and listen to myself and baby. you can do this. you're not a bad mother. you're just tired. is there anyone that can come give you a break? call in help. i was too shy to ask for help. everyone needs rest!

I know how you feel. My daughter is two months old and we went through that for awhile too. I've brought her in the bed a few times, but not at night time. Since her birth, I've made sure to be really consistent with putting her in her bassinet and to have a night time routine. I feel like that really helped us as far as getting her used to sleeping on her own. One thing I will say, from my experience, is that only worked for my daughter because it was her... Every kid is different and has different needs. I found out really quickly that people tell you what to do and what not to do all the time, but you know what is best for you and your baby. Every kid is different, so cookie cutter advice doesn't cut it. For instance, she's exclusively breast fed. I have struggled and struggled to maintain my milk supply. I've been on several milk production diets, taken herbs, pumped and pumped after she eats.. the stress was taking a toll. Doctors, friends, and family members all told me NOT to give her bottles of my milk because she wouldn't be able to latch. But guess what? I broke down and started doing that this past two weeks and not only is her latch fine, but she's happier, I'm happier, and she's getting enough to eat. I know how it feels to constantly second guess your decisions but all parenting is at this stage is trial-and-error. Don't be so hard on yourself if you have to hold your little guy until he sleeps every once in awhile. Everyone has had to do that with their babies from time to time.

Sometimes they condition you because they don't want to be put down though. My girlfriend went through that. Every time she put her daughter down she would scream and cry. My mom actually helped her through it. She said, sometimes you just have to let them cry themselves to sleep. She said if she's not sick, and she's been fed and changed so you know there is nothing wrong. Lay her in her bed and close the bedroom door. Turn on the radio or something so you don't have to listen to her scream, and give her like 30 minutes and then check. She said, once they figure out that you aren't going to pick them up every time they cry, they will usually cry themselves out and sleep. It may not work in your situation, but it's something you can try. Hugs!

your baby may be allergic to milk if he sounds congested could be, if not you need to wake him up keep him up for the day do not allow him to sleep only nap baby's get there nites and day mixed around, try to stays clam in front of baby he could be having colic cure warm bath, and last but not the least he could be hungry I'm betting this it what wrong not filling up doc have a fit about this but it works start him on teaspoonful of rice cereal put in his bottle it well help him to sleep longer also he wont spit up try the veral enjoy your sleep , I have raised around 9 kids six was my own my baby's never spit up, slept all night, never used pacifier or security anything I think baby's use pasfires when there hungry , try the cereal only one teaspoon full he ask for more if he needs it , your doctor well have a fit doc don't believe in water I do if drink milk it leaves coating we get wash that feeling away , doc told me that I knew how to feed kids hope it helps if you neeed help I'm me ok hugs dear min

Please please please take the baby to bed with you if it feels right. Humans are the only mammals that try to force our babies to sleep all alone. He wants to be close to you and there's nothing wrong with that at all. He just spent nine months inside you and no where feels as right to him as right next to you and the familiar beating of your heart. I co slept with all of my babies safely and happily and now they are all perfectly adjusted to sleeping in their own beds, so don't listen to nay sayers who tell you that you will be forming a bad habit.

I am a huge fan of NOT letting children sleep in the bed with their parents, or any large person. One simple reason: I have read stories about parents who did that and rolled over their child.

Not good.

So for me it is safety first, within reason. Not going to put my child in a bubble to protect them from 100% of anything. Just the big things.

Our pediatrician suggested a "let them cry it out" method where we let them cry for 5 minutes, then went back. Then 10 minutes, then went back. Then 20 minutes, etc. Make it progressively longer.

Tag teaming babies is a great trick. Get help, like the others suggested, and then leave. Go someplace that does not have children. When you get back odds are you will need a baby fix so bad the crying will not upset you!


And yes, you as a family, will find a routine that will work for all of you!


When it comes to caring for babies there are two groups of people. Those who know it all, and then there are the actual parents!

Gentle hugs

Hugs and you are a good mom. I remember those days. Sounds like Pepper has a good idea. I am also not a huge fan of co-sleeping. Sounds like you need a break. Hang in there.

I agree with TooMuch. I did that with my oldest who's now about to be 21 years old and I did it the first 6 months with my now 2 1/2 year old. You're a good mom and don't beat yourself up too much. I have and is still very much guilty of doing and it doesn't help either of you. Babies are so smart and they can sense when you're frustrated.
It's unfortunate these days because so many moms can't turn to other moms because it's like the "olympics of mommyhood" as who can get the most gold medals for doing EVERYTHING right and not making any mistakes at all from birth til they turn 18. I sometimes have people ask why I still stroll my baby and I say because I know him and I'm not going to let him get hit by a car! Oh and the super fun one is when they ask why I still hold him sometimes, well last I checked there's no age limit when it comes to holding them, but hey what do I know right? You're a good mom and you do what's best for you and your baby!! Sending big hugs!

I've never had kids before but I do know that everyone is not you. When I was in college people always told me, "Don't sleep! You need to do this!" "Hey! You need to do this, this and this!" It wasn't until I left college that I realized that my body and mind know what I need and when I need to do it. When I bake a cookie too long and it looks like shit and I know I have time to remake it, I do so because I'm not happy serving my customers shit. When I need to break down and write my feelings out, I do so regardless of how little time I have. The point is, do what you need to do. F*** everyone else because there is no cookie cutter way of parenting. If there was, thr world would be a simpler place. But it's not and that's fine. You're doing your best and that's all you can humanily do on your own and that is fine. No matter what anyone tells you, YOU ARE DOING FINE! Keep going! And just love your son. He's probably just scared

I've never had kids before but I do know that everyone is not you. When I was in college people always told me, "Don't sleep! You need to do this!" "Hey! You need to do this, this and this!" It wasn't until I left college that I realized that my body and mind know what I need and when I need to do it. When I bake a cookie too long and it looks like shit and I know I have time to remake it, I do so because I'm not happy serving my customers shit. When I need to break down and write my feelings out, I do so regardless of how little time I have. The point is, do what you need to do. F*** everyone else because there is no cookie cutter way of parenting. If there was, thr world would be a simpler place. But it's not and that's fine. You're doing your best and that's all you can humanily do on your own and that is fine. No matter what anyone tells you, YOU ARE DOING FINE! Keep going! And just love your son. He's probably just scared

First of all Congratulations on your new little one!

As none of us are ever taught how to be a mom nor does children come with instruction manuals with every piece of advice you get on parenting you must always understand each child is unique one from the other. And what may work for one child may not for the next.

With that said only YOU know your child more then any. And as parenting requires patience and comes with many trials and errors you must be confident in your abilities to raise your child the best way you can!

Try not to get too frustrated and do what works for YOU and your family!

And always remember and cherish these moments spent with your little one as they won't last forever and before you know it your son will be graduating high school.

This battle is just the beginning but as any great mom you'll be fighting for your son the rest of his life so don't get weary now!

You Can Do This!

Speaking as an experienced mother, go feed baby, clean baby, wrap baby in swaddling cloth, lay baby on side in bassinette.... put bassinette at other end of house, turn vacuum cleaner on or similar.

Go down to other end of house, climb into bed and sleep.

Babies don't die in their beds from screaming. They only die from mummy chucking them out the window after 3 days with no sleep.

This is a hard lesson but a vital one. Mummy actually DOES have to come first. This is not up for grabs.

tbh you've probably given her colic from too frequent feeding. he'll have to scream and fart and scream and shit and scream it all out of his system.

When he's back on an even keel after a good sleep you can then feed him three hourly if breastfed, four hourly if formula, and water in between if baby won't sleep. You have to keep feeds spaced out or they get colic and wind.

If this isn't working, then start to look for issues like how bad the labour was, if the neck might need adjusting. Has the baby a hiatus hernia or something other that's odd? What does the doctor say?

But babies don't really care if they're not being held. They will sleep if bed is warm and they are tired.

But they have to get over a hump: a hump of screaming. Takes between 10 mins and an hour. screaming is good for peristalsis, the trick is for mum not toget too screwed up about it. Hence my suggestion of the vacuum cleaner. Makes a louder noise and you don't have to hear the crying.

put on headphone listen to music

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