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GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727

I am on disability for mental and physical reasons.  I went back into therapy after about 10 years and it's really been a big help.  Yesterday, I woke up early and made some coffee.  I was in a good mood.  Then my best friend told me something that upset me.  I couldn't let it go.  Then I went for x-rays and then headed to my disabled Aunt's apartment.  I guess you could say I had a nervous breakdown in the winter and it was mostly caused by taking care of my Aunt.  My Aunt drives me crazy.  It is very depressing and annoying to be in her presence.  At one point, I wrote to her daughter and told her that I can no longer take care of her mother.  But my Aunt still asks me for favors.  Yesterday, she wanted me to pick up some yucky sandwiches that she was going to pay for.  I never said I would get them.  She was very disappointed that I didn't get them.  Then, she asked me to clip her nails and tweeze her chin hairs.  I have never clipped anyone's nails.  I said no to both.  She was very upset.  I felt really bad but that was out of my comfort zone.  Then she asked me to pick her up some black socks for her trip to the doctor next week.  I hate shopping.  I forgot to mention that she is extremely paranoid.  I can't tell you how many people she has accused of stealing.  I could go on and on.  She sucks the life out of me.  Mostly, I am venting.  I have backslided.  Today I am determined to take my old Christmas tree out to the trash.  I put it up for Christmas of 2019 and never took it down.  Now it has fallen apart.  I'm really down.  Thanks for reading.

Bluebird20
Bluebird20
I am sorry your having such a bad day. Your doing the best you can and what you can. It is nice you are taking care of your Aunt. It is especially hard when relatives get on your last nerve. My friend says her Mom tap dances on her nerve. Tomorrow is a new day, rest up, relax.
jannytheresa
jannytheresa
hi
You told your aunt's daughter that you could no longer take care of her.
You can't sacrifice your own physical and mental health for hers and her daughter.
Have you thought of letting your cousin know that your aunt continues to ask you for favors, but that you absolutely need her to step up to the plate or your
aunt will be on her own? I sense that if you aren't 100% clear that your aunt's daughter will continue to rely on you. I had a bad day today for different reasons. But honestly, take care of yourself and try to get some rest
NeedHelpTN
NeedHelpTN
Hi, I'm to young yo tell you what's the best thing to do, maybe talk to your aunt or cousin again, but I have yo know that if you need to talk whit someone I'm here. Hug
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Thanks everyone! I am having a better day today. I'm going to avoid calling my Aunt today. I really do have my own problems. I have an appointment with my therapist on Saturday. My Aunt's daughter has a very busy job and is a newlywed. She says her Mom is a handful and sometimes she has to take a break from her. My Aunt has no idea what a pain in the ass she is. Sometimes, when I'm in a good mood, I offer to pick something up that I know she needs desperately. That's probably wrong of me. Today, I am going out for a little while and then I hope to get some cleaning done. Cleaning is a big issue for me. I've always hated it. Trying to deal with it in therapy. I haven't had a relationship for 26 years. In.order to feel dateable, I have to lose 75 pounds and clean my house. Okay, thanks again. I appreciate your responses.
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