Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Kimby74 11/29/2011

I'm sooo...not motivated. I don't like it, not a bit! I've had four days off work and accomplished nothing!!! Lots of sleep and staring at the the TV. I don't think I'm sad. I feel, I don't know defeated. I've not been successful in getting any housework done, bills paid, shopping, eating or exercising correctly etc... I'm sore and tired all the time. I think it's because I'm overweight and not motivated-depressed??? (laying-sitting around all the time). I wish there was a miracle answer, I'm sure there's not. :-( Maybe it's taking small steps which I've tried before but I never stick to them. Maybe I'm not trying the right things...I need help but I'm not even sure where to go for that. I like to do things on my own and don't like to ask for help. Even when I break down and am willing to ask I don't know what or who to ask. I know I'm the only one that can truly fix it but maybe I need a cheerleader or two!

(((hugs))) Kimby

deleted_user 11/29/2011

Kimby,

I know exactly what you mean. I have so much I have to get done and no energy to feed the motivation to get it done. I wish I had an answer for you, because then I'd have one for myself too! Just know you are not alone.

Annie

deleted_user 11/29/2011

hello kimby, i would like to introduce myself as someone who was forced into a depression and fought my way out of it.

i know exactly what you are going through, one of the thoughts that would run through my head was "whats the point, what good is it going to do"

so you have to start telling yourself, "i am a busy person, and my family needs me to get things done"

you should start using a calendar, schedule, and daily todo list so that you fill it with tasks and do them one at a time. dont forget to eat some bananas for an energy boost, coffee works wonders as well

deleted_user 11/29/2011

Kimby - Have you had your thyroid level checked lately? I see you have hypothyroidism and this can cause these types of symptoms. Make small goals and keep them. I tell myself that I will do 3 things a day, and once I get started I usually get a little more done that I thought I would. Good luck to you! hugs

ZAZAS 11/29/2011

I like the last response, do three things minimum and soon you will find yourself doing more. I find that is true for me.

Kimby74 11/29/2011

Thank you so much for your input and advise...anything helps and it's good to know I'm not alone. I will try doing three things (using a list). I'll update later and continue to watch for support, hopefully I can give support along the way as well. (((hugs))) Kimby.

chelle37 11/29/2011

Hi Kimby, I know I go through that often too. Try not to be too hard on yourself, part of depression is such a major depletion of energy. What sucks though is it feeds off itself for me, so I don't feel like doing anything, I sit on the couch and then it makes me feel even more like not doing anything. I think you're onto something with the small goals. Try to set just one small one a day like taking a walk. It may help to post your goal on here and then let us know when you accomplish it so we can cheer you on.

deleted_user 11/29/2011

I get that way a lot. Mine is not only depression but also pain.
All I can say is don't stress about it....it will still be there when you do get motivated...it always is for me:)
Hugs

deleted_user 11/29/2011

Kimby74, I agree about the minimum of three things a day. I also know from experience that motivation does not always precede action. Sometimes you need to act -- just start doing something -- to get motivated.

And I will give you a very recent example of this. This morning I woke up to yet another rainy day, and I was feeling bummed out about that, and I even went back to bed. But then I felt guilty about that, and so I made myself start in on my list. And I accomplished three or four things today.

My kitchen floor is sparkling. I did some laundry. I cleaned out the refrigerator. Not exactly earth-moving stuff, but hey, it's something.

Kimby74 11/30/2011

Thanks everyone... I did make a list of 3 things to do after work last night. Nothing huge, but I completed all 3 of them after working all day! I'm going to make another list of 3 things for tonight....we'll see.

Trying to keep my chin up...

(((hugs))) Kimby

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