You are being much too hard on yourself. Give yourself some time to heal. Now you know what you don't want in a relationship. You have the upper hand. Don't settle. I have settled in the past. I was desperate. I definitely learned some lessons. Everyone who comes in your life is your teacher. I know all about gaining weight. My problem is mainly that I am very inactive. Maybe get on an exercise plan. Find someone to walk with. When you are ready, get on a dating website. Steve Harvey gives out good relationship advice and says that 65% of all marriages today are due to online dating. You should check out his Hey Steve videos. I find them on Facebook Watch. Good luck sweetie! Go easy on yourself. You are human, after all.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been there so many times myself. He is losing out, not you. He did you a favor. Now you are no longer apart of his games. He doesn't deserve someone like you and he will only continue on this path to self destruction. Don't let him take away your power.

Hey friend, I am so sorry for all the pain. I recently have been having my own fair share of issues. I gave my trust to a girl who made me feel really good and as things got better between us I quickly learned that I meant nothing to her. I cared so much about her then somehow she was just able to throw me away. Afterwards a girl from my passed contacted me and we caught back up I thought we were going to try this time. I told her all the feelings I have ever had for her and I completely opened up to her. I have never been completely vulnerable with anyone and despite my fear I decided to act. I told her I loved her and I meant it with my entire existence but she threw me away too.

Youre not alone, friend. Somedays I think about how I have never been in a half way successful relationship and after so many people say no to you - you really start believing that you are the issue. I have been also praying to God for love but still no look. After breaking yet again I looked back and God and asked why I was being punished and why He hated me. I still have my fears and insecurities but in those next few days God showed me through the help of others that I am very much loved and that HE has never forgot about me but I had forgotten about HIM. I still pray to God that HE helps me find love but this time I try to show love for God more. I pray, I read, and I try to act accordingly and I truly believe that if I can display my love for God that one day he will give me the love I deserve.

Lastly, I implore you to start investing in yourself. When was the last time you did something that made you happy? Or did a hobby, hang out with people that love you, accomplished a short term goal? Maybe start going to the gym be empower yourself again, hang out with some those who love you, and start doing things that ONLY make you happy. Lastly, I would say get a journal to right your thoughts and your progress, and never lose hope in God for He burdens no soul with anything they cannot handle. Stay strong my friend!

So sorry this has happened to you but it may help to know it’s a common story for many women. Can you see it as a learning experience and let it guide you in the future so you know what to avoid and what red flags are? Adversity can be the catalyst for change and this could mean researching eg. what a narcissist is and how to protect yourself. Good luck for the future. You deserve better.

Personally I think we have all attached ourselves to the wrong person. It's like we're wearing a sign - come mess with me. We're tired, hurting and even desperate to feel better and our judgement gets away from us. It can be a vicious cycle. Sorry you feel like you got taken for a ride but I think we still need to keep trying. There are good people out there, albeit difficult to find.

It is not you being stupid, it is you trusting what he said was true, he was lying and he is the one who did wrong and is stupid to do that to you. Obviously he has issues and it probably in the long run is better for you that he's gone if he's playing games and untrustworthy. I'm so sorry you are going thru this and hurting!! It really sucks and no one can make it better, at least for now. Show yourself quality love and grace and know that you are loved and worth being loved well. Don't take anyone at face value and wait till they prove themselves. Trust your insight, pray for wisdom and go in the way you feel is best for you, not what they say to you. love is proven in what someone does, not just what they say. There are many who love selfishly, like they love the waitress who gives them fresh ice tea, but that is loving self, not sacrificial love. You will overcome, you are strong and need time alone with just you and God, to know what sacrificial love is and how much you are loved, rather than the second hand love that has been given you dear, you deserve to be treasured! <3