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How can people be so cruel???

adlk1234
adlk1234
Yes, I have a diagnosis of major depression and have had inpatient treatment more than once. And yes, I take medication. And yes, I have a caseworker from Mental Health. What I don't have is a sister who by the way is a retired school teacher and supposedly or so I always thought an intelligent person. who understands that it is possible for a person to have these problems I have but NOT be crazy. Yes, that's her opinion. She seriously thinks I am crazy and should be living in a "home" somewhere. Let's see-I live alone, pay my own bills (and on time), do my own shopping, clean my own house, keep up the maintenance on my car, care for my cat, keep my doctor appts, I do everything for myself!!!! Oh, and I also am capable enough to know she is a very toxic person in my life and that's why I removed her from my life 4 months ago. So maybe that's why now she feels the need to talk about me to everyone. Maybe I should find some literature on mental illness and depression and send her to educate her.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
>>I removed her from my life 4 months ago.

or not.
McBri
McBri
Some will seek to understand and others will try but won't. Sometimes people prop themselves up by persecuting others to feel big and to feed their egos. It especially hurts when it's a relative.
keepingthefaithalive
keepingthefaithalive
She doesn't need to be educated...she's just being terrible to you. Maybe it's sibling rivalry, maybe it's her way of feeling good about herself to put you down, whatever it is, it's HER problem. You were right to take some space from her...I suggest you keep that going. (((hugs))) You're doing great! Don't let the jerks drag you down.
gramybear
gramybear
She needs more then education, she needs a heart. I am very very proud of you for all that you have done for yourself. That is a lot and there are people who don't have depression that can't or couldn't keep up with you. It does sound like she is still in your life and I feel that she is just going to make your depression worse if she continues to stay in your life. If she is talking about you to other people in a negative way, then that is reason enough to end the relationship, sister or not. We can love our relatives, but it doesn't mean we have to respect them. She does need some literature or she needs to go and talk to a therapist. Maybe she needs the therapist herself. Please don't let her take away all of your accomplishments and hurt you any further. I have a lot of admiration for you and I'm sending you lots of hugs. GB
aimeemarie23
aimeemarie23
this sounds exactly like one of my ex "friends"... i can think of one particular incident when she was aware that i was suffering so much (i was sobbing down the phone to her), and she starting screaming at me about how i need to be sectioned!
toxic people like that only weight us down, i've learnt that now and she's recently removed herself from my life due to my "selfishness" (she hasn't bothered to research mental illness and especially depression at all, she just assumes i'm attention-seeking).
sending lots of hugs X
gramybear
gramybear
I forgot to add something to my post to you. Here it is:

If you feel like your ship is sinking,
it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that;s been weighing it down.
Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
china70
china70
Oh I so know where your coming from where I live there's a lot of haters like that. I'm applauding you for distancing yourself from that toxic person. You do not at need to be home! She needs to be in a home as you say. Lol.
china70
china70
@grammy bear good advice. :)
adlk1234
adlk1234
I'd like to thank everyone for your replies to my post regarding my sister's negative attitude and inconsiderate remarks being made to others about me. I HAVE removed her from my life as I stated. Just recently she said some derogatory statements to my daughter about me(many of them things that happened many yrs. ago and many of them outright lies). A year ago I would have picked up the phone or emailed her and told her exactly what I thought. But I didn't. I didn't stoop to her level. And because of this recent event is why I mentioned this on here. Actually I was quite proud of myself for having the restraint to NOT contact her.Like I told my daughter "Let her talk about me-that way she she'll leave someone else alone cause she can't get to me anymore." And I'm sure it just ate at her when she got no response from me this time. It just feels good to tell people what type of person she really is.
gramybear
gramybear
I am very proud of you. This is for you:

When faced with senseless drama, spiteful criticisms, and misguided opinions
walking away is the best way to stand up for yourself.
To respond with anger is an endorsement of their attitude.
Lots of hugs GB
adlk1234
adlk1234
Thank you grammybear. You are a very wise woman. Your message speaks volumes. It's like you have written mt personal motto. Thank you. Hugs!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well when people act like that they are just begging you to say, "How do I know YOU aren't the crazy one?" After all, it's a subjective word,, crazy. It has a ton of meanings depending on who is using it. I'd say to ignore it but it's kind of hard to ignore what is coming back to you through the grapevine. Since you've already figured out how to deal with her, now it's the things you're hearing about yourself from those she talks to you have to learn to deal with.
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