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horrible day

Alliegator
Alliegator
So today has been a really bad day. First off today was the last day of my freshman year of college. I had to pack up my dorm and leave all of my friends. Now I'm back home. I hate living with my parents. My mom and I do not get along at all and dealing with her only makes my depression and self-hate worse. When I got home I found out that my mom is having a flare up of her bad back and some sort of eye light sensitivity problem. Which means she is going to be even harder to live with than usual. Then She told me that my grandpa has to have quadruple bypass surgery in a week. I'm really scared. I know its a relatively routine procedure but there is always some risk. Also, I was stupid and weighed myself today. I gained 8-10 pounds. I'm really really not okay with that so now I have to go on a diet and work really hard to get back to my normal weight. I'm starting to not fit into some of my clothes too. I feel awful. I am so stressed and upset.
deleted_user
deleted_user
((((((((hugs)))))))) I used to hate going home for the summer too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
OK that is a lot of plates you're juggling there.

Firstly...mothers... tell me about it. Is living with her temprary? Will you be able to find your own place soon?

Secondly, Im sure your gandpa will be ok, its always scary when our reletives go into hospital, but especially when theyre older, maybe go and spend some time with him before hand.

Weight gain... its not too drastic, curves are in dont you know :P

Try to relax and tackle each issue one at a time.
Alliegator
Alliegator
I only have to live with my mom for 3 and a half months then I will be back at school and I don't plan on coming home any more summers
deleted_user
deleted_user
Give yourself a little time to adjust. Changing most any environment is stressful until you have had a chance to adjust. Center your thoughts and concern around yourself and try to figure out what it is about your mom's behavior...that is effecting yours. Take away the button she pushes and you take away your frustration.
chelle37
chelle37
It seems like you have alot going on at once. Moving out and leaving friends and then having to live with your mom who you don't have the best relationship with all on the same day... that's a really big deal. And then finding out about your grandpa. It's alot to take in at once. I'd say be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to feel whatever you need to through this. I'm sorry you're having to have this all happen at once. ((hugs))
Juice
Juice
Wow. That's a lot to handle. You know the weight thing is going to feel worse in the light of everything else, so take some deep breaths and don't do anything drastic. It's a danger time for ED. Give yourself time to grieve your old friendships and the adjustments you have to make.
Routine procedures never feel routine when it's your own family, but try to hold on to the fact that it IS routine these days, and he'll feel so much better afterwards.
Give yourself some space and time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hugs to you hun. I remember leaving college for the summer. It was always hard going home, and having to answer to people. It is so easy at school to just come and go as you please with no one to bother you, ask questions, ...I had some issues there as well.
I hope grampa comes thru surgery well. I am an RN, and can tell you that bypass has become much more routine, and has been perfected over the years, but of course you are scared. It is normal. If you can, go spend some time with him before the surgery, it will make both of you happy! As far as gaining 10 pounds goes, don't beat yourself up about it, it is very common, especially freshman year to gain weight. don't kill yourself trying to lose it. Go slow, be positive, and you will be fine! Hope things are better soon, and that tomorrow is a happier day! Hugsxxx
deleted_user
deleted_user
BTW, Where do you go to school????And what are you studying?