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As most of you have seen lately here at DS, many of our beloved friends and associates are *on the outs* with each other which really tears me apart as it does others.
I have noticed that I do not recieve as many hugs as I use to here or as many comments and was wondering something.. First off, I am not looking for attention so please keep those comments to yourself, or not, cause it really doesnt matter. Secondly, I have a hard time putting into words how I really feel so please bare with me. Now..
Do the rest of you feel torn because you are friends with people on both side of the fence? Do you feel like you are leaning to one side if you feel worse for one of them? Do you feel like you are caught in the middle because you still have the *offensive* person on your friends list? Are you just tottaly torn up because of all the stuff that has gone on by people that you genuinely care about?
Am I less of a friend to any of you here that are involved because I am torn? I just really need to know..I am not trying to *stir the pot*... I just really need to know..
And also............... does my farting and my smelly fur offend any of you? Just wondering.. I ruv you guys rong time.. I love you fucktards more then you know.. thebeast
I have noticed that I do not recieve as many hugs as I use to here or as many comments and was wondering something.. First off, I am not looking for attention so please keep those comments to yourself, or not, cause it really doesnt matter. Secondly, I have a hard time putting into words how I really feel so please bare with me. Now..
Do the rest of you feel torn because you are friends with people on both side of the fence? Do you feel like you are leaning to one side if you feel worse for one of them? Do you feel like you are caught in the middle because you still have the *offensive* person on your friends list? Are you just tottaly torn up because of all the stuff that has gone on by people that you genuinely care about?
Am I less of a friend to any of you here that are involved because I am torn? I just really need to know..I am not trying to *stir the pot*... I just really need to know..
And also............... does my farting and my smelly fur offend any of you? Just wondering.. I ruv you guys rong time.. I love you fucktards more then you know.. thebeast
Many good supportive people are leaving or not participating as much. I will only speak for myself now. I am on the fence about leaving. Many older members & banned members that keep showing up hate me. They do not even know me, yet they hate. That is their problem & I don't take it personally but what I don't like is to see them calling me names out on the public board.
That is NOT good for the community at large & the new people to see such negativity in what could be their darkest hour joining DS.
So for the good of the community, I have stopped posting & only reply to very few posts so they do not have an opportunity to spew their venom at me......very sad....I don't have a mean bone in my body & feel I could help people here.
Hugs Y'vonne.
I have never seen you be anything but a great person and give wonderful advice to others.. I have also heard others say that they dont come to the boards much because of all the bullshit.. Its a real shame. I have always thought you brought a lot to the boards and I have personally missed you...
Relationships are challenging enough. When one steps in here, with all of our different issues and problems, without any sort of "investment" in making things work (sometimes), then things can get quickly out of hand.
I'm starting to accept that there is fighing, attacks, meaness, back-stabbing, and the rest. This way it doesn't bring me down so much because I figure this is just the way things are. It just IS.
I'm here to lend an ear *ouch, not my real ear!*, give what little bit of support I can, and really try to encourage (and stay the hell away from politics and religion).
I think it comes down to Expectations. My expectation of you people is that you will call me out when I am not nice. Keep me in line. We have a really great opportunity here. We can USE it for good, or we can flush it. Whatever we wanna do with it.
When i first came here i was really at the edge and some of you guys were unbelievable and never before had i encountered so much love and support and i will never forget it. Shite im going off track now.
Im my own person and i wont have anyone tell me who i can and cant be friends with both here and offline and i noticed the hugs are pretty few and far between now too beastie.xx
and i did de-friend some people i care about to make a point that i cannot support it.
but the ones i really care for i have written and explained my point of view, and that no matter their's, they still have my support.
but, yeah....it made me take a huge step back.
ps.....luv you missus!
Honestly, Beastie, I can't advise you how to proceed with friends. It's always a balancing act, in one way or another. Every relationship is a kind of contract based on mutual trust. I think you have to take people as individuals, understand what harm/ what good they are capable of, measure and weigh things, always.
It's not static. It's forever changing, especially as some people's behaviour/ tactics become more or less overt.
I'm a big believer in giving things time. You will see patterns if you look for them. That can answer a lot of questions for you.
If it doesn't, perhaps it's not an issue you need to be worried about (?) Maybe?
I do understand how emotions can become charged in an online forum though so I don't hold it against anyone.
beastie you obviously have a lot of ppl here who love you. It hurts like hell to be exposed to fighting between loved one either online or off. I did notive that through it all you never gave up trying to lighten the air and even managed to make ppl laugh. IMO you're a gem. I'm really hoping to get to know you.
I miss a lot, I guess. Have not been privy to anything like this at all....at least not personally.
I told her to tell them that their problem was theirs and theirs alone and that she would not take sides and would be happy to be friends with both of them BUT they would have to work out their differences between themselves. She did and that was that The Lady who lived on their hallway said it was a moist astounding occurence and both of the other little girls just kind of shut .
SO In case the analogy misses you These were 12 and 13 year old girls acting like that. So if the adults here also wish to act like adolescent snot nosed kids So be it But I do not choose sides.
you can come on over to my house and fart all you want to....