I HAVE NOT DONE ANYONE HARM ON THE ALCOHOL...

Alcohol is a genetic disease for some that requires daily visits to AA meetings. I had a problem for a number of years but, fortunately did not have a genetic predisposition to drink.

The correct thing to do is to have a discussion with your doctor about your drinking problem! Your doctor will tell you what your options are. Your best chance at staying sober is to go into and IOP (Intensive Outpatient Program). Every hospital has one. Your doctor can refer you or if you need to get admitted more quickly, you can go in through the emergency room. (That's what I did) The out patient program is usually 5 hours a day and you will be treated for the things that trigger your drinking so you won't keep relapsing. I was treated for ptsd and depression which I never even knew I had. It was discovered while going through the intake process which is when they ask you alot of questions.

So make that dr appt. or visit the ER asap. Taking a proactive approach will increase your chances of staying sober!

Keep us posted!

God Bless

My ex brother-in- law was an alcoholic he could never stop for long even though he was hospitalized 2 times for alcohol related illnesses. Had he stopped then he would still be here today.But he went back a third time and died of liver problems about six years ago he was only in his late 40s at the time and left behind a wife and 2 daughters. Also my cousin a few years older then myself was a closet alcoholic for years ( his father was an alcoholic also and died) but no one new my cousin had addiction problems except his wife and she never revealed it to anyone in the family. It wasn't Untill he killed another driver while driving drunk did it all come out. He did 10 years in prision for his crimes. I have heard alot of great things about AA and the 12 step program they use to keep people sober. They have saved alot of lives over the years and their programs are run by fomer alcolhics who understand where you are coming from. They are very supportive and will hook you up with a mentor who you can call at anytime you are having a bad day or feel you might start drinking again. Ther is no shame in getting help. And they will open up your mind to other options of self care and getting your life back on track. You should look up a local chapter in your area and join.You won't regret it I wish you all the best in your search for recovery.

Honestly, no harm? I'd say the family dynamic you described denotes plenty of harm. Otherwise they would be acting fine around you. It has been harming you as well. A 12 step program is the only thing I've seen that even remotely works. It requires self honesty or at least the willingness to be honest with one's self. I know it sounds rough, but you said you want to take action. Go to a AA meeting, humble yourself and reach out as best as you can. When someone suggests something...DO IT!
It may change your life. When you have been "sober minded" for a while, you can choose for yourself what comes next. (sober minded) as opposed to being a sober person who still has all the behavioral thinking processes of a habitual drinker. paradigm shift time. Message me anytime, I got plenty of my own fish to fry, but if I can help I will.

Go read Allan Carr's easy way to quit drinking or whatever it's called. That guy is great, and the reason I managed to quit smoking.

The only way to stop being an alcoholic is to stop drinking alcohol. Dry out. Go through the hell of it.

go tell dad, tell mum, and get them on board for drying out. You can only dry out if you understand why you're drinking to start with. So get the book, drink away while you read it, see what you think.

This is not a big deal. You can do this, Like any challenge it's hard when it's in front of you but easy peasy when it's behind you. I laugh at people smoking now. I think it's silly, and easy to quit. But before I managed to quit it was very hard and seemed like a giant mountain.

Ask yourself what you want out of life. Ask yourself what future you want, who you want to be. You're currently getting absolutely nothing, and will die with nothing. If you want something, you have to shift your direction from drinking your life away, to taking up some challenges and pursuing them.

Now is a good time to do this. Time to change. You're not getting any younger. This will NOT get easier the longer you leave it.

go buy that book. Allan Carr. Brilliant guy.

I never had an issue with alcohol but I have been through similar programs like bobinmaine stated for depression and they help. If you are in danger of hurting yourself with alcohol or any other means, do go to the ER. I have. It's why I am still alive. I know a little about AA but never attended a meeting. All I can say is many people who have are grateful for the program and it helps them. Take the action you know and want to take. Listen to this advice and make a decision. Otherwise, your family history may catch up to you. And neither you nor any of us want that for you.

Thank you soulsearcher...so many "real addicts/alcoholics" have died at the hands of well meaning people and loved ones who tell them it is simply making a choice to stop. It actually feeds the problem with shame, guilt and deadly isolation as the addict grapples with failure after failure. Most addicts die "wishing" they were like most people. Choosing to embrace brutal self honesty and change at the very core is not easy for anyone. It aint easy peasy as stated above. Dropping a habit has nothing to do with being addictive at the core of one's being. Hopefully, Loner simply has a habit to drop. But only he can answer that.