You're super right, life sucks, life is hard, life is dark and gloomy, life is cumbersome. But only sometimes, it is a daily struggle to feel happy, to feel good, it is a struggle to get up in the morning when you were up all night, heart rushing, palms sweaty, eyes tired, stomach turning. Sometimes you see no end, no light at the end of the Tunnel. Just remember though, that every tunnel has an entrance and an exit, so just because you can't see it does not mean you aren't close. Keep strong and soon you'll smell the sweet air.

Yes everyone has bad things happen to them at some point in their life, that is so true. And Yes people do have certain Platitudes that they use when trying to comfort someone or help them get through a hard time.

Do they say these things because they believe them, not usually. Do they say them because they're blinded to the fact that bad things happen.....probably not. They say these things because they see that your hurting and your having a hard time and they don't know what else to say or how else to help. And it has been proven in many Clinical Studies that having a positive outlook and using the Power of Positive thinking does help patients improve.

Now i'm not the fluffy bunny type and I personally don't care for Platitudes and Mantra's and Uplifting bible verses every day, etc. The only one I ever use, is "Fake it till you Make it." that one actually tends to work and help you just fake it through the tough times until you can get back to yourself when things are better.

People don't say things to us because they want us to know their better or special or unaffected....they say things because generally they just want to help and are doing the best they can.

Take Care,
Kat

I learned that major error in life no. 1 is wanting/expecting to be understood. It's not going to happen. Depression makes us feel we are not understood/won't be understood / cannot be understood and that depression will seldome let us feel understood even when we are.

Most people over 50, I would expect, would 100% understand. But you're not likely to get that feeling from many of them, because your understanding is not adequate to it yet. You don't understand when you're being understood.

We go through pain. yes. Always. All of us. All the time. There is not one person in your life who, if you asked them to tell you their worst story about their life, didn't have you in tears at how tough they had had it. That's the thing we need to always remember. That when someone is saying some mindless 'look on the bright side' thing that this may be how they are not dead right now, that this mantra that they have repeated is why they never killed themselves.

and that they're offering you their most precious jewel.

It's always just a matter of perspective. Just remember they care, and that's the bottom line really. Knowing and understanding is less important than caring. :)