I am very sorry to hear that you are going through this. 5 years is a long time and when your life changes after that much time it can be brutal. It will just take time. You will start to feel better, it just doesn't seem like it right now. I'm currently going through a separation after 6 years so I totally understand what you are dealing with. If you want to message me feel free.

Sorry to hear about your heart ache. Probably not the best advice but you can try thinking of reasons why this is a good thing. Manipulative person, messy eater, horn dog. It can maybe help put a bandaid on the issue. Long term is just time. There will always be someone else who you will love and they will love every thing about you. Take this time to just focus on you, which is the cliche thing to say but seriously. I was in a mentally abusive relationship and once I kicked his butt to the curb i realized so many things about me and who I am. Good luck, stay sane, watch plenty of fail videos on YouTube, funny shows and a bottle of wine

It is not easy...actually I found it quite painful and jarring...but it is doable. I started my divorce process almost five years ago after 34 years of marriage. I agree with the posts above...it does take time, and there will be love after this. I do watch my share of reruns these days. Unfortunately, for me, the Disney fairy tales of my youth have been replaced by Pam and Jim's relationship on "The Office." I can still cry over my silly perceptions about what they have and I did not. There are numerous books about breakups and life afterwards.
As the person above said, feel free to message me. Thinking of you.

Can you tell us a little more about why the relationship ended ? The reasons ?

I had moved 14 hours away from my adult children, family...and would visit four times a year...but I wanted to live closer to them. I wanted us to move there, but my partner did not. It was my decision...the inner pain of not having family around was a struggle on the relationship. (we have healthy ties...and enjoy some time together unlike many families). initially, before i moved, i was told if i ever wanted to move back, my partner would do this with me, as they do not have any children and no family ties. but changed mind.

break ups are tough! be gentle with yourself
do whatever you need to grieve
give it time, some patience and perhaps things were for the best or what they say is things happen for a reason.
sending postive vibes and warm hugs for healing

I know how bad it hurts. Can’t even escape the thoughts and dwelling even when you’re busy. It’s the pain that’s relieved over time. In this time, however, focus on yourself and maintain healthy behaviors. Know that you are not alone in this pain. Hugs.

Left Foot Right Foot breathe you're grieving the death of your relationship and it's tough it's going to take time how much that varies from person to person but that's not telling you anything you said you had adult children so you obviously have been through The Break-Up or divorce before the nights are the worst when there's nothing to occupy your mind but the relationship but eventually you'll start to feel better

Thank you everyone. Appreciate your kind words.

Firstly try to relax alittle bit, if you want to add me and message me you're more than welcome x

Beware of lolaaa94, she's advertising herself on several Mental Health Boards as a "Mental Health Support Case Worker Manager" and inviting people to open up to her, so she can "help"...she looks about 16,

We bounced her from the BiPolar Board and requested her to be reviewed by DS.