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feelings about friend

Mars1212
Mars1212

It occurred to me that I feel somewhat attracted to my friend, but as I'm thinking about it further, something tells me that he is extremely avoidant and noncomittal in relationships, and that I would be really let down by him. I'm not sure what gives me this impression, but I know he broke up with a friend of ours and she was extremely upset. She eventually went on to marry someone else and have kids. He never did, and he didn't date much after that for like ten years apparently.  There were some questions as to his sexuality, if he was gay, straight, etc. people talked about that and it crossed my mind too.  I don't know about that, but I didn't get the vibe that he was gay when we were hanging out the other day.  I also kind of feel like if he was really interested in a relationship with me that I would know about it and he would say as much.


I don't know. 

GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Good morning. I think you are obsessing about this guy. If something is going to come of it, then it will. Are you really ready to jump into a relationship with him? Get to know him again. He might tell you about any relationships that he's had. And guys can be afraid to bring love up in a friendship. Keep us posted!
Bluebird20
Bluebird20
I agree with Green eyes. Give it time with him.
ReaDyO
ReaDyO
I also suggest to give it time, before you emotionally attach yourself ask questions. Get to know the real him and not make any judgement on hearsay. One thing is for sure, "If someone shows you who they are, believe them." If he shows you he as commitment issues, extremely avoidant then I say believe him. But only if these are attributes that he shows not because you heard it from someone else. Also be honest to yourself. Do you see yourself with him in a deep loving relationship?
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