change is one of those hard things....do you think it is possible to change? Bad habits are hard to break but I will tell you I quit drugs, then quit smoking pot, then quit smoking ciggs then in 1995 I quit drinking....it is possible but you must surrender the habit to the process of change....good luck

Thanks, I will try. Am trying.

I may be wrong but I believe your referring to self harm perhaps and unfortunately unlike addictions of chemical and pharmaceutical varieties...self harm addiction has a psychological hold that can be almost impossible to break. It takes hard work in Therapy, DBT classes are often needed, medication can help, but it takes a lot of work on your inner and outer self to break the bond that self harm holds on its captor. The quicker you can get in with a Therapist and Psychiatrist and start breaking that bond the better off you'll be.

Hi OlderCPer. Actually no, I was not referring to self harm. It's actually a relapse in viewing pornography, which I am trying to quit. I am in that group too. Still, thanks for replying to my post. The people in this group are really nice

Therapy and DBT Skills would help with that problem as well. Its the same type of Learned Behavior Coping Skills that you would use to re-direct your Behaviors to not view pornography when the urge hits. Kind of like creating a set of "ready to access" alternative thoughts in your mind; when the urge to view Pornography hits, you automatically re-direct your thoughts to one of the alternative thoughts and do that activity instead.

Unlike chemical and pharmaceutical addictions, Learned Behavior addictions rely heavily on re-directing your thoughts and using alternative thoughts/memories/activities to replace the "unhealthy behavior". Learning those types of coping skills.

How does DBT work? Like what would I have to do?

Actually, I think I will Google search it. Thanks for the advice :)

Yes Google it. DBT is a Therapy Program, generally 9 months long, small group type class settings, usually twice a week. To considered to have completed a DBT Program successfully you have to repeat it twice. It's very intense training\teaching, learning\being taught how to redirect your thoughts and retrain your mind to go to better-safe-good learned behaviors as opposed to the addictive learned behavior your trying to get rid of.

Good Luck.

I don't feel ready for face to fave or group type of settings yet

I have been in DBT for over a year now, and it completely changed my life. I look at things so differently now and I feel like I can actually handle the challenges that come with mental illness and addiction. I understand if you feel like you are not ready for a group setting yet. But it is something I would consider for the future, I think it is definitely worth trying.
Feel free to message me if you need anything.

Thanks Victoria :)

Thanks pam4him. I am actually feeling better today. Been two days now :)

Hang on.

What's wrong with watching pornography? I mean, unless it's some kind of horrible porn I don't want to mention, exactly what is wrong with it?

We all agree that masturbation is a healthy and normal activity don't we? You're not trying to shut that down to zero are you? Because that's not healthy.

There's a middle ground. And with the confusion inflicted by religion it can be unclear as to what's going on. Someone who doesn't perform their daily tasks, or who is rubbing themselves raw over it - that's not okay. But one or two orgasms a day is perfectly normal for a guy and shouldn't be an issue.

For what it's worth I think it was einstein said you cannot get rid of a bad habit. All you can do is replace it with something more interesting.

So... if you are sitting at home wankin all day get up, get out. Meet someone. The real stimulation of a real human being far overwhelms the 2nd rate 2 d stimulation of some video.

Pornography is addictive. Anything addictive means it has control over you. No one likes being enslaved. Like any other addiction, let's say alcoholism, it becomes a compulsion. In this case the compulsion is in the mind which makes it harder to root our than a bodily compulsion. Those images will never get out of your head. They will stick there forever leaving one feeling dirty, guilty and ashamed. So yes it is a big problem to some of us. If it's not a problem for you, good for you.