Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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lomofirefly 07/20/2019

So yesterday my nephew got his braces put on and he spent the night with me. He woke up hurting and after giving him some tylenol I just talked to him a while about funny stuff and I mostly talked about when I was younger in HS and had more friends and all the fun things we did. After he fell asleep I stayed awake wondering what happened to that girl she was happy or at least I had friends to do things with but I was always socially awkward. I just managed to be like "hey i'm not popular or get asked out on dates (I was overweight in school only lost weight after I graduated) but at least i have some friends to not be popular with" now those friends are married and moved on. While here I am sad, lonely and tbh I feel lost.

I want a good job and an apartment but then there is the part of me that is thinking "you can't hold down a job you don't even know what you want to do in life because most of your day is spent worrying about anxiety attacks and if you are really depressed or not"

See now i'm wonderng if i'm depressed or just lazy and then I start to think maybe I should take medication for my depression/anxiety but then I think "why can't you figure this out youself what if you aren't depressed and you don't need the medicine"

Is that anxiety or just paranoia? I know that I used to love going and doing things with friends and family now its a chore to get out of bed, i'm embaressed when I cant afford things, feel the dissapointment from my family when I don't get the job and then dissapointment in myself when I secretly am a bit relieved because even though I want the job I also desperatly don't want the anxiety that comes with it.

WanderingVet 07/20/2019

"maybe I should take medication for my depression/anxiety but then I think "why can't you figure this out youself what if you aren't depressed and you don't need the medicine"

First, you need a diagnosis. Depression/Anxiety ... extremely complex. Should not even try to diagnose, treat, or deal with yourself. Get an evaluation, diagnosis, and treatment plan from a medical professional.

Looking back more than forward is not the best thing either. We cannot change the past, but we can 'arrange' the future.

IF you are clinically depressed (and you very well may be), get yourself to a doctor and get treated for it. It is treatable.

lomofirefly 07/20/2019

I have been diagnosed with GAD and mild depression but I have a habit of trying to fight that diagnosis or battles on my own. Its something I struggle with the thought that "oh I can fix this on my own" when in reality I know that I can't and I have struggled to do so for years but its so hard reaching that point where you admit that you may need the medicine.

lomofirefly 07/20/2019

Whoops I did forget to mention that this diagnosis just came from my regular doctor. Where I live its very hard to find a therapist let alone a psychologist unfortunately.

I guess i'm just mad at myself for being so darn stubborn....and scared. The thought of medication changing me is scary maybe its the control freak that resides in me.

kiwicsi 07/20/2019

The purpose of medication is to re-align your brain chemistry and get you back on track. I too, struggled with the notion of being on medication (25 years ago) but I realised later that it was no different to a diabetic having to take insulin, or someone with high blood pressure needing meds to control it. Don't worry about medication - it's there to help you get back to the person you were made to be.

WanderingVet 07/20/2019

>>trying to fight that diagnosis or battles on my own.

won't work. It will probably worsen over time.

>>"why can't you figure this out youself what if you aren't depressed and you don't need the medicine"

Clinical depression etc defies logic. Let a doctor decide.

>>The thought of medication changing me is scary maybe its the control freak that resides in me.

But the disorder has already changed you. "I used to love going and doing things with friends and family now its a chore to get out of bed," Sounds like classic depression to me ... and .... its treatable.

lomofirefly 07/20/2019

Wow ya'll make sense im so grateful that I found this forum. I have tried talking to family members and friends in the past but have always gotten the ole "why would you be depressed? You have a great life" even though I have been diagnosed as so.

Same with anxiety. One thing I can't stand is being told "everyone gets anxious suck it up" so frustrating.

anyway what I mean to say is ya'll put things in perspective and thank you for it.

Scaredandafraid 07/20/2019

I was always anti medication but my anti depressants we're the greatest thing to happen to me. It even helped me realize all the good things in my life i was missing and not appreciating because of feeling inadequate and depressed. I to thought i could handle it and fight in my own and it almost cost me my family. Medication doesn't make you a zombie or reliant on something. You will still have thoughts but you will be able to rationalize and work through them instead of folding into the belief there is no hope

OllieTree 07/21/2019

Yep! Medication can be difficult if you miss a day by accident (something I’m notorious for) but in daily life it has made anxiety fade more into the background instead of constantly butting into my life. I know many people who don’t believe in medicine, but, well, I feel if it will help you it is 100% worth it. You can start with a very low dose (mine is 5mg) and increase it if you’re worried about its effects. I’m glad you’re able to find help here :)

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