im really sorry about your kitty :(( im a huge kitty fan and i know how devastating it must have been

*hugs*

as for the family thing... try not to worry too much about it (yeah i know, much easier said than done...)

you can try distracting yourself, or just thinking about the future (past the dinner, past the fall out from it)

really, theres nothing you can do about it, however it goes or doesnt go... so just try to relax and wait for it to happen... then you can take stock and see what you have to do to deal with it

let us know how it goes please... i wish i had more helpful advice

*hugs*

Luna,

I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your kitty. (((HUGS)))

I am so sorry you are having a panic attack. Try to work on your breathing.....like in thru the nose and slowly out thru the mouth.

Sip on some cool water. You are going to get thru this....message me if you need to talk. I will say a prayer for you and I hope you will be alright. Can you take something that might help?

I cannot begin to imagine how you must feel about you kitty, family member, passing but i can emphasize with you. In my case my puppy died in my heads.

I will cheer for you so things develop the way you think will be best. Good luck.

Hugs

People with differences, talking to each other, rather than about each other - very rare, and admirable.

Everyone's adults. It's really between them. If both of them truly want to get along, they will. You have been close to all of them during their battles, and that can continue, whether they bond or never speak to each other again. You can care about them without caring about their drama.

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"Don't stress the could haves. If it should have, it would have."

Thanks guys. Everything turned out alright. Although not without some hysterics on my part when the meeting times got screwed up. I feel relieved and very tired.

Thanks for sharing i know how hard it is to have family members who are constantly at each other's neck! i know that families are one of the most important relationships you can have. I would say two things one if you are close to any one of them let them know that you will be contending for them in prayers , encouragement, or as a listening buddy. The second is don't try to fix it yourself but keep in touch with those in your family and hangout with them letting them know that they matter. Also i am sorry for your kitty.

I am like that to ....and I was also in the position of being close to them all to .....my family are not as bad as yours but bad enough to be upsetting ...I had to learn to love the parts of them I could and except the rest of then for who they were and not for who I wanted them to be ....and be happy for them so long as they were doing ok .....than came a split in my family and it hurt so bad that is what dragged me into this depression .....and I had to learn the same lesion again but this time it took me years to come to a point to be able to even think about that ...than my doctor finally told me if I wanted to get better I had to be number one and my husband number two and the rest didn't count ....I was shocked when he told me this but thought about it and decided I had tried everything else and I just wasn't getting better so I decided to do it his way ......it took some time .....I was lucky my husband was very supportive and he told the kids that they couldn't come to me with there problems or disagreements ... they could talk to him ..and if there was something important I needed to know he would tell me he would.....we started by going camping at a camp ground 2 and a half miles away and only had a cell phone for emergencies or if they were combing to visit ..all our children at this time were grown and starting families of there Owen ....so this helped ...just last month the one in the family that had caused all the damage came back to the family .and there was no one who said anything about anything they were just made to feel welcomed as everyone else .......maybe you need to be number ..............one ...........take care .....god bless

I also wanted to say I still visited the ones that wanted us in there lives and just enjoyed there company and now I get ti do the same with the one that left .....sometimes miricals can happen ....so you need to make you are strong enough to enjoy them when they come ......god bless