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sfay
sfay

this sounds so childish and ridiculous but i had a boyfriend for 2 days, it ended yesterday. it ended because of me, he was being very affectionate and it made me extremley uncomfortable and i felt disgusted by it, it felt horrible, it felt so gross, like somebody telling u they care about you and other stuff, it made me very overwhelmed and it felt super weird and i hated it, so i dont think im ever getting into a relationship they seriously scare me now, especially after my experience, i tried explaining to the guy how i felt and he just didnt understand, but yeah i feel stupid, it ended as quickly as it started, and it was my fault. i dont want anybody to get confused so ill say a few extra things, i dont miss this person, i dont really even like them anymore, i cant even say i ever liked them as much as they liked me, i was just bored and i thought a relationship and getting a boyfriend would make me happier or change my life for the better, but there was a horrible feeling i felt while in this relatinship, i think i felt even more alone actually, it felt like he was suffocating me, he didnt do anythign wrong, i just have a messed up mind, everytime he would say something nice, i would feel gross and like running away, i feel worse than i did before because now that i realized a relatinship wont make me happier i dont know what will.

jmetallo
jmetallo
Sometimes you just want to get laid. But I think you are holding back on what you want to tell us and everyone, so let it out!

I'm guessing you may be a little confused. (?) Pick a side and take a stand!
sfay
sfay
No, sorry if I confused you more, I don’t want that at all
Tired
Tired
Maybe partly because you aren't used to compliments. Is why you were uncomfortable. Plus you only had an extremely short time being boyfriend and girlfriend. He probably went to fast with the relationship. Relationships can be fulfilling and enjoyable if you find the right person. Try things you can do alone for now to feel better. Creative or physical stuff. Try new hobbies if bored. There is tons of things to do as a hobby.
mtd
mtd
Sounds like a problem with being intimate and opening up. Laying yourself bare if you will. I’m not talking about sex. But just being able to let the other person see who you really are. Your reaction is a coping mechanism, a way to protect yourself.
wolvessonata
wolvessonata
She certainly did not want to get laid and is not confused by her sexuality or struggling to tell us something. That is not what she was implying. She is only 16 and has emotional issues she is trying to work through. Please don't talk to her like that and get your facts straight first.
annieheart
annieheart
You did right. You can not force yourself to feel something you dont feel. When things are right you will know. If he cared he would of went much slower and gave you space and tme. Having a boyfriend is not the most important thing, Having the right boyfriend for you is more important. Take your time.
Duzzy011
Duzzy011
IF you not ready then you not ready, I think finding the right person will make it better but if its ot the right person then it wont work out, Im sorry it didnt work out and hope something good comes your way soon
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
You answered your own question. You really didn't like him. I kind of dated someone who I didn't like right after school. I just liked him as a friend. We are friends still. I am 63. Don't be so hard on yourself honey.
sfay
sfay
@wolvessonata thankyou for defending me!:) I don’t know how he got that I wanted to get laid from my post, that comment confused me lol
Bluebird20
Bluebird20
i was with someone for awhile, who liked me more than I could like them too. A lady I knew wasn't that happy with men ans said "the ones she liked didn't like her and the ones who liked her she didn't like. Try as Tired suggested a hobby. Maybe you would like scrapbooking, sewing.
Anna1212
Anna1212
It might have been more he just wasn't the right guy for you. I wouldn't swear off all romantic relationships based on this experience. Chalk it up to experience. I know this is cliche, but you are way too hard on yourself and this is broken record but maybe revisit the idea of the school counselor. If not her, maybe she could give you some resources for support. Dysfunctional families can really throw us off when it comes to relationships. Check out Patrick Teahan on youtube. He has some great videos about this.
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