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Phil1970
Phil1970

Having a real bad day, Fibromyalgia pain and fatgue is awful and my Depression has taken a nose dive too.


My partner attacked me last Wednesday evening in a fit of drunken rage and one of very many I've suffered at her hands. The Police I think have seen enough this time and have bailed her to her Mum's address, one hundred and eighty miles away for a month. Her attacks on me have escalated over the last few months both in frequency and severity, this time she badly bit my nose and fractured a bone in my right thumb.


Life is a mess now, I've been given sole custody of her boys (8 and 11) having had to sign an agreement with Social Services, what the doctor told me at the Hospital A&E about the seriousness of her assault still echoes through my ears, I'm worried about her deteriorating mental health and alcoholism, about my worsening Fibro and how the hell I'm going to manage all of this. All the Agencies involved are pushing me to press charges, but I doubt I can!! You see, I still love my Rachael so bloody much and forgive her (again) because none of this is her, it's her mental health that's to blame.. She has tried so darn hard to get mental health help and now look whats happened!! I'm bloody angry at a system that plays deaf to the voices of those desperate for help..


When the hell are the powers that be going to wake up and address the dilapidated mental health system?

Tired
Tired
Maybe she will get the help she needs if you press charges. Both of you can't keep going on like this. Something has to change. The kids are old enough to help you with chores. The older one could help make food and help with laundry. Are you getting counseling from social services?
Ask them for resources to help you deal with the kids.
Phil1970
Phil1970
They know about my Fibro and did say they may be able to sort transport for the youngest (oldest can walk by himself) but my fear is, if I ask them for help due to a Fibromyalgia flare up, they may take the kids. The truth is, it's exhausting at times, but I gotta do this for the boys and hopefully to keep our family together.

My problem is I hardly know my partner anymore, she's been consumed either by her Alcoholism or mental health disorder (yet to be diagnosed). Even her youngest son said told the Social Worker that he doesn't know his Mum anymore. This is all so bloody sad.
AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
What do you do to manage your fibro? My mom and I follow wild diet. After 2 years of the changes diet her fibro got better and she even went off of meds.
skii
skii
Don't know if this is a stupid question but have you tried to stop her? And what did she do in response if so? You could try a different approach if the first approach didn't work.
Also I'm a kid (16) my mother is a single parent who has raised six kids on her own but we all were easy on her considering she was going through a divorce.
One last thing broken hearts are horrible but look to the future and don't give up hope!
skii
skii
Also I think you'll do great there are many resources to help you like this sight.
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Sounds like its her alcohol problem more than a mental health problem....and that's a choice.
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