You should take this up with the individual.

Sorry you're feeling this way...dont' know what happened but I do know that people can 'vanish' from this place for many reasons, 99.99999% of which have nothing to do with other people. Sleeping, different time zones, computer crashes, it all contributes.

I know I am missing the person I count on the most. I think her computer crashed. Maybe that's why I am having such a hard time.

i am afraid of all those things but still aware that in this life unconditional love seems to be nonexistant unless ive missed that boat. but i myself cannot give much suppport lately because my phone is broken (new phone does not have same capabilities) so im kind of taking a break because im going through some type of crisis and hoping not to end up in hospital. take care

I won't do this. Scout's Honor.

No brag, just fact.

I believe that MANY of us suffer from all the things you have described in your post. But what we have to ALWAYS remember is that this Forum is about depression, and it can cause and wreak havoc on all of us. We don't mean to ever reject anyone that we have promised to be there for. Something might come up in the family, such as having to call an ambulance for my mother and then hearing from her every 5 minutes from the hospital.(Just an example). Or when my computer went down and I had no advance warning. Then DS has gone down and I couldn't get on. It was the worse time of the year too. Christmas Eve and Christmas. Like someone said, there are time differences, insomnia and Chronic Fatigue for others, and some of us, in fact many of us, suffer from more then just depression. I am one of them. I grew up with many abandonment issues so I know what you are saying, but try to look at the glass half full instead of half empty until you know exactly why you haven't heard from the person you are depending on. Hugs GB

I don't want this post to get lost on the second page because I really think you need to hear the support that is being offered to you. So I'm going to bump this back up to the top. Hope that is okay with everyone.

I keep thinking about your post and I guess I need to respond one more time. I really want you to know how much I understand your fears of rejection, abandonment and loneliness> I had all three of those growing up and I still have fears of all three. That is one of the reasons that I do everything in my power not to do those things to others. When a person tells you that they are there for you and are offering you unconditional support, they honest to God mean it from the bottom of their heart. At the time they are telling you that, their not in the same mind set as they might be next week, or something might come up and they have no way to tell you right away because all we have is a computer between us. Please try not to take it personally if at all possible. The reason I say that, is because I don't know if I'm going to end up in that black hole tomorrow and the devil has me buried in the dirt. I hope this helps you to know that whoever told you that they were there for you unconditionally, they truly meant it when they said it. Hugs GramyBear

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I DO AGREE!!!,
I TO HAVE VERY BAD ISSUES WITH BEING REJECTED I CANT COPE OR HANDLE REJECTION!!! IT COMES FROM MY VIOLENT ABUSE FROM NEVER BEING LOVED OR LIKED AND ONLY HATED BEATTEN AND BEING REJECTED FROM OUR FAMILY A,

ITS A SCARE WE MUST FOREVER WEAR WITH FEARS ANXIETY PHOBIAS PANIC ATTACKS AGORAPHOBIA PARANOIA DEPRESSION BIPOLAR AS WELL AS STRUGGLING TO FUNCTION PROPERLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

TY HUGGLES N CUDDLES DC

Agreed,
I nearly 'lost the plot' recently on this site and nearly just gave up trying.
Luckily someone saw what happened and pulled me through.

Communication is a complex thing and we can easily mis-understand what some one is trying to say.

IF IN DOUBT, LEAVE IT OUT! seems to be the best policy,
If you don't know....don't pretend you do

I just try to draw from my own life experiences and share what I have learnt with others.

If you really don't care about the person, leave them alone
RULE NO.1 - DO NO HARM!

I'm glad you moved this up, It's important

Then lets bump it up one more time. I'm glad you agree that it's an important topic. And what you said blueanne, is very true.

Like everyone else said, things happen that don't have anything to do with the person that feels rejected. I know I have lost my cable connections many times and felt like a fish without water without DS.

I think another thing is people judge needs for how you sound on the board. You always sound very independent and very very intelligent. . I didn't even realize until I read all the post that this thread was about you, I thought you were defending someone else.

I guess when you yourself feel rejection, abandonment, and depression it is hard to believe that someone like you needs the same support. We forget that everyone needs support and tend to mentally weed the strong from the weak. Unfortunately the strong suffer more. I usually categorize strong people as the helpers here. They seem to never need help themselves and always reach out to help others and have what seems to be very good advice almost 99@.. I know this sound crazy but I hope you understand what I mean.

Like Blueanne stated, I only share from my own experience in things I have myself endure or overcome. I am a very loyal friend and get into trouble sometimes defending those I love on here. I would like to offer you support,. I have suffered rejection here and I have experience a whole lot of love here. I can't offer unconditional support, My past tells me that it does not exist. People let you down, don't put them on pedistool because they will eventually let you down. They don't mean to let you down , it is just things happen i life we have no control over.

The saddest part of DS is the friendships you start to make and all of a sudden they are gone! No reason, just gone! You never know if they are sick, dead, in the hospital , crashed their computer or just ignoring you. It hurts.

Anyway, I am on here every morning. If you would like my support please send me a friend request. I am usually to unsure of myself to send them myself. I wish you luck.

Thank you everyone for all the responses. Unfortunately, this is not some misunderstanding where their computer broke down or something. I desperately wish that was the case. This is someone who decided they no longer want to be friends because they grew "tired of their friends." And told me I was no longer worth it after they filled my head with how special I was, how we had a special bond, and how they would always have my back.

It hurts so much because I thought I finally found the support I had always been looking for my whole life, but it was all a mirage. I placed all of my trust in this person and grew close to them after I had stopped trusting for years and now it has been shattered again.

All this confirms is that I am just an unlovable person that no one wants to stick around for. I am back at square one when I started on this site. Feeling desperately alone and hating myself.

Your are not to square one, you have come into you own on this board. It is hard to trust and even worse when you do open you heart to get hurt again. I think it is terrible that this person did this to you. However, sounds like she/he may be going in her/his own downward spiral. I know some people start to get sick and they delete all of their friends. No rhyme or reason. It is just something their own depression tell them to do.

So, I am sure it is her disease and not you that is the problem. Sooner or later they show back up and apologize and ask those whom they deleted to send a friend request if they still wanted to be friends. They are usually very embarrassed. I am sorry your are in pain over this.