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Depressed over surgery

Singer78
Singer78

Hello everyone, 


To make a long story short.. I have struggled with obesity my whole life. It in itself has caused depression and anxiety.  My dad and his sister both had surgery 10 years ago and had success. I myself had always thought about it but was scared to get put to sleep and I wanted to try other methods. Fast forward to now, married with a young daughter living by the beach literally 15 minutes away and I am super depressed. I feel like it is hopeless to lose weight. I have tried everything under the sun. I just want to give up on weightloss. This is especially true since I found out my insurance company doesn't cover bariatric surgery.  I went to the beach today and just felt miserable physically and mentally. Sad because I don't have the energy to play with my daughter. Pissed at myself and angry that I can't  afford self pay $20,000 for the surgery. I just hate feeling this way. 

Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
I too have had weight be an issue. Like all things is learning to love you for who you are. It's taken me a long time to learn this and force myself to tell myself I'm fine the way i am. Vanity and society make us think we aren't thing enough or muscular enough or pretty enough. But like most things it's a mindset. I really hope you can learn to appreciate all the good things about you
reerose
reerose
yo. i feel for u. know in praying 4 u. u be well. xo
Tired
Tired
Have you seen your doctor? Maybe medication can help with the depression.
And therapy could also help you.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
I used to be thin, but recently have gained quiet a bit of weight, I have low functioning thyroid and the medication I'm on also causes alot of weight gain. If I work out, it means getting up at 5am, and going to the gym before work, then at work I feel exhausted the rest of the day. I went once last week, and I went this morning. Losing weight is harder and harder as I age, I totally understand the feeling, of not feeling good about myself for being so heavy, having people laugh and be rude to me, or just act like I'm not there.
Kenyatta
Kenyatta
It's not easy. Try and take one day at a time.Start off with little things first. If you want to chat, message me.
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