A few years back, I was hanging out with a crowd of people that I enjoyed-mostly.  I met the people through a male friend (opposite sex) at work.  We did a lot of things, I went to house parties and other get togethers with these people for about a year and a half steadily.  Things seemed strange at times, though.  It was getting to the point that I was becoming really good friends with these people (I thought).  Around the holidays one year, it was particularly odd.  I had a strange vibe around Thanksgiving.  I had been invited to a Christmas party as well.  I was very excited about it and considered going.  All of the sudden, I noticed that the facebook invite disappeared.  I didn't think much of it. I woke up the following morning to find that each and every one of the group had attended, and posted pictures.  I was specifically uninvited.  I was so devastated and blown away that I just didn't know what to think. My other friends said to drop the group immediately, which I think was a no brainer, not that I was wanted around anyway.

My friend attempted to stay in touch with me afterward and hang out one on one, but it felt really strange to me without the group. It felt a little awkward. I went to a couple more of the get togethers, but just didn't want to after that. After all, I knew I was not wanted. I thought why, what was the point of continuing to be friends with him, and his friends didn't like me. He was aware of what happened abou the Christmas party and alluded to it.

This was just before the pandemic. I then got a boyfriend right before the pandemic, and we broke up just before lockdown. I was really hurting. I don't know why, but my friend that was connected to this group started texting me all. the. time. after we broke up. After I got vaccinated and was getting out of the house, he wanted to hang out one on one constantly, to come over to his place and watch TV, to go swimming at night, watch movies, and was getting a little touchy-feely. The texts were overwhelming, and I didn't know how to confront him without it being uncomfortable and ruining the relationship altogether.  A life coach suggested that I block his number. I thought this was extreme and might have consequences, but there were just so many texts and I felt so overwhelmed, it was different from our normal pattern of hanging out.  I'm sure he noticed something was wrong.

I did eventually unblock him, and I heard from him around Thanksgiving this year, which was nice.  He invited me to an event, but I couldn't make it because I wound up in the ER.  I texted him recently to get together for happy hour, which we used to do. Unsuprisingly, he didn't text back. I know it's my fault, I mean what could I expect with how I treated him? I just wish the consequences weren't so much, though. I'm not sure the life coach's advice was the best. A lot of this occurred during the pandemic when we were supposed to be social distancing and I was getting really paranoid about getting Covid. I feel enough time has passed so that I've had enough distance and could hang out with him again. I'm not as upset about what happened anymore. But, I'm sure he's not too thrilled with me.

I'm not sure what the lesson in this is.