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Coffee shop blues

BookThirteen
BookThirteen

so I’m sat in a coffee shop unable to go home this morning after my 4tg nightshift in a row with very little sleep during the days in between. On my way home I was talking on the phone to my BF and we had a huge argument.he has people round but all I want to do is have a bath and go to sleep. I said he was selfish (I won’t be able to sleep with them all playing games and making noise. Plus o would feel uncomfortable trying to get to sleep when there’s a house full of his friends). He said I was unreasonable for expecting him to sit around by himself all day. Now I’m in costa desperately trying to say awake and not to cry. All I want to do is go back to the house and go to bed but I feel like I can’t and he doesn’t even care. This is the closest to suicidal I’ve been in a very long time. 

billwfriend
billwfriend
Hang in there. Time for new boyfriend maybe?
BookThirteen
BookThirteen
I couldn’t. We have a house, we have dogs. There’s no way I could afford to live on my own and sometimes it’s really good between us. It hasn’t been for a long time but I know it’s possible. Why is he so selfish and why is he doing this to me!? What’s wrong with me!? Do I really deserve this!? To be struggling to find a place to sleep and get a wash after a 13hour shift in a hospital.
gregsbaby
gregsbaby
Does the deed have both of your names on it? If only his than there's no need for you to be in a house of horrors. As for dogs, I had fur babies too and I know the attachment, however there's always some needing to be adopted.

Never ever underestimate yourself to feel you're stuck in an unhealthy relationship. Yes fear of the unknown is scary as hell but sometimes you have to come out of your comfort zone for the greater good of moving on to have a healthy/prosperous life! You only get one life with no do overs and yes as the saying goes, "life is too short and tomorrow isn't promised to us!"
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
"sometimes it’s really good between us. It hasn’t been for a long time but I know it’s possible."

Lemme guess, that was early in the relationship, right? When "everything" was new and bright and beautiful. When overlooking those "red flags" is so easy and oh, so frequent.

Does your bf have a job? Because I can't figure out why he would otherwise "sit around by himself all day" unless he was unemployed.
BookThirteen
BookThirteen
He works but he was off today so last night he invited friends over. They drank and smoked weed and ended up staying from last night until lunch time today.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
A home you cannot go to ... and live in comfortably, is not a home. Your 'home' was taken away from you by a doper boyfriend and his friends. Your 'boyfriend' is a child .... and you are an adult. That ain't gonna work.
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
WV is spot on!

BF is a child.
AMC_306
AMC_306
I used to work graveyard and even though I'm a natural night owl and could sleep through a hurricane, that shift could really pack a beating. One is constantly sleep deprived and exhausted.

You're contributing to this house by working demanding hours and its more than reasonable to want to go HOME (the place where you live, not his friends) and relax.

I agree with the other posts, what else is he doing? Why does everybody have to come bum around at your place? If he doesn't want to hang around the house all day why can't he leave? I don't want to disparage your BF, but his argument and actions are wholly inappropriate and more than rude. It is unfair to expect you to live that way.
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