HI Sarah, you just tell your husband that a child needs the care and love from both parents in order to grow. Time does not reverse for your husband to catch up to your child's growing years. Children grow quickly so if either parent is too busy to enjoy their children, they will miss all the love and happiness a growing child can bring. Besides, it sounds that you do need some respite, especially during the COVID lockdown when your husband is at home and has free time to look after the child whilst you rest. Take care, Maree

Ahhh that is a kick in the butt, isn't it? I think everyone I know has had some version of that "conversation". Without knowing anything about your situation. It is hard to offer any advice.
But I feel for you. I remember how hard it was to have a baby and from the sounds of it other children as well. It is a lot and with everything that is going on I am sure you feel at your "wits end". If you can nap when the baby naps.
Have all of you have an afternoon siesta. Sometimes just 20 min can give you the energy you need to get through the rest of the day.
If you have older kids and they can't nap have them have a quiet time in their rooms. They could read or do a puzzle maybe.
I know us moms we do put ourselves last. Maybe you need to just take a 10 or 15 min in the morning to do something for you, meditate or have a quiet place to read a book, before your family gets up. Perhaps that would energize you to put yourself first for 15 min a day.
It is hard to keep it together when you are sleep deprived.
You need to take care of you or you won't be able to take care of your family.

I wish I had learned this years ago.
https://www.donnaschilder.com/articles/life-coaching-articles/put-your-oxygen-mask-on-first/

https://www.mother.ly/life/this-is-an-announcement-put-on-your-own-oxygen-mask-first-before-helping-others-with-theirs

I get that it can be rough but it sounds like he is shifting the blame instead of owning up to it. I know when my soon was born we both slept but i made sure i got up to take care of him so she could rest. He was my first child but my wife's 3rd. That may be a stronger reason that i did being a new dad i don't know but it seems that he would at least try to make it where you could get some sleep

When I was care giving for my infant children (my husband was working), I followed the adage "sleep when the baby sleeps" for this exact reason.

Sending hugs your way. I have been a single mom for the majority of the time with my children, so certainly have no advice on how to get the other party to understand. But I do know that it eventually works out. Hang in there.

Thank you everyone! I hate to come off as just complaining, it's just the lack of sleep negatively impacts every aspect of my life. I just wish I could make it better. Stay safe and healthy everyone!