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Cakeasaurus
Cakeasaurus

I told my boyfriend today that I was feeling really sad and I didn't know why. He didn't even acknowledge that I'd said anything. He went on about his new keyboard and mouse. And I know he read my message. It showed up as read.


We moved in together 3 weeks ago and he's been less than helpful. He forgets to take the garbage out every week even when I remind him the night before. I do all the cooking, cleaning, animal care, everything. All he has to do is take out the garbage and he doesn't. I don't like doing everything myself. I told him that. And to make matters worse, I have to initiate sex every time. And it's not even sex. It's oral. He doesn't ever touch me. It's always me making him feel good.


So I called Crisis Services today and cried to a crisis counsellor. She calmed me down and convinced me to go for a walk and a shower. It was good. I just wish I had some support in my own home. My boyfriend acts like depression is no big deal.

mandarin26
mandarin26
It really sucks when our partners aren't there for us. Have you tried talking to him about how you feel?
Laurie222
Laurie222
Counselor had a good idea by taking a walk. Sometimes exercising helps clear your mind and boosts those feel good hormones. But if you're still feeling sad, find someone (besides your boyfriend??) to talk to.
Sounds like you need to sit down and have a talk with him. Remember guys communicate way different than girls. He may not know how you're feeling. Try talking to him but keep it as low key and non emotional as you can. Don't say things like You don't ever or You always... he'll probably tune you out. Just calmly tell him that your mood has been sad, you're not sure why. Ask him for a little help with the chores...maybe you can do them together.
My husband (2nd one) is so sweet but he has two sisters and he was real close to his mom. He actually likes to talk about feelings and all that but I don't!
I hope you are feeling better. I know how it is to feel low. I have lots of sympathy for anyone going through it!
lighttheway
lighttheway
I hope things have gotten better since you posted.Its good that you called the crisis service when you needed to and tried some things to feel better.Going for a walk usually helps me too.Just being outside and getting fresh air. I hope your boyfriend and you can sort things out.It takes a while to get used to a new living situation.
bridgie101
bridgie101
Your boyfriend doesn't have to understand depression, or really have anything to do with it, for you two to get along. But you probably prefer one who doesn't totally get off on watching you crawl around on the floor.

Give him the old heave ho. He's absolutely loving this. Why are you doing this to yourself? Don't feed the troll!

Give this giant parasite the kick.
orion777
orion777
Sounds very difficult, I would have a hard time knowing what to do or how to respond. I hope you find what works for you.
CrowFeather
CrowFeather
maybe things are getting a little overwhelming for him, or maybe just a typical male being a jerk with or without knowing it, things are still new for you 2 it seems maybe a tiny bit more time patience and shower walks???? At some point I agree the other half should join you and take their place as the other half, they don't call it that for nothing, work together live together feel good together and even hurt together if that don't happen then it seems clear this is not the one who deserves to be a part of your life at least not the live together share life level, we all have good and bad points I am sure you are no different so that being said there are good things about you worth sharing and if the person you are with don't share that idea find someone who will but whatever you do don't let it beat you up like you have been, know you are worth it, and know there is someone who will appreciate you.........
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