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Mars1212
Mars1212

Well I had mentioned earlier that I was trying to get back out there and start dating. I went to a speed dating event earlier this week which was really fun.  I chose three people on the list that I might be interested in. None of them chose me back. I was really upset and disappointed and just felt like staying home the rest of the weekend.  I wasn't a big deal if maybe one or even two were not interested, but three for three felt like a real strikeout. I was feeling a lot of self doubt and disappoinment after that.  It happened the last time I went to one of the events last year.  Some other people did choose me, but those people I only felt a connection on a friend level. Everyone was nice and I enjoyed it a lot, but there were only a few that I was interested in more romantically.  With my 'friend' recently telling me to just give up and quit dating recently, I started to wonder if she had a point. I have to say it made me feel pretty bad all around between my bad luck with this and others' perceptions that I should throw in the towel.  My confidence is shaky to begin with. Maybe I am just trying too hard. I seem to have better luck actually when I am being less intentional and focused about it, it seems to come together on it's own, at least that's my impression. I have other things going on in my life anyway, so maybe I will put my attention to that for a while. 

billwfriend
billwfriend
I have never speed dated.....and do not know how it works other than you get three minutes or something to meet and talk with someone....no idea what after that.....anyway.....sorry nobody connected.....do not give up....join meetup,com where you have common things that the group is doing as a group and meet people that way that maybe will want to date you.....they have singles meetuo groups....
confessionsofaqueen
confessionsofaqueen
Not experienced speed dating myself but it sounds like fun!!! Go with the intent of enjoying yourself and give yourself many speed dating experiences until your perfect 100/100 match up!!! Never give up!! If that’s been your journey and experience, you should have better vision of your journey. Best to you and I’m proud of you for being honest with your feelings.
Mars1212
Mars1212
Thank you!
TimothyRRC
TimothyRRC
Happiness comes from within, it is acquired by practicing self-respectfulness, I recommend it, it works great for me. If practiced properly then you will always do right, you will be harmless and selfless, you will become self-likeable. Liking self is more important than others liking you because you have 100% control over it, and it's permanent. Start practicing self-respectfulness asap, you will love yourself for it too.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Good for you for going and for putting yourself out there. I'm sorry there were no matches this time, but sounded like last time you did have matches. I guess it depends who shows up that night.

Like Bill said, check on meetup.com for singles events. We have something here where it's a large dinner gathering in a restaurant, all with just singles. They even schedule it by age range.

Keep looking! You will find someone. It only takes one....
Lifereallysucks
Lifereallysucks
Where did you find the speed dating event?
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
25 years ago, by brother rented a chicken coop to work on a truck that he had. He started talking about the single mother who lived in the apartment in front of the chicken coops. She had an adorable 2.5 year old. They started dating. Yesterday we visited them down the shore. They get along great! If it's meant to be, it will happen!
hasty_05
hasty_05
If something causes you to feel rejection, I’m not sure it’s something to keep doing.

Do you get any feedback from the guys? None of them chose you, but did you get a look at the women who were chosen?

I just think speed dating with matches reeks of disappointment. Somebody won’t get picked or matched back.
Mars1212
Mars1212
you can find these events on the internet, there are meetups that host them as well.
guitarman79
guitarman79
I joined a dating site for disabled people, Like me.

A girl started talking to me, And right away, wanted to know if I wanted to call her.......That was the first day. Second day She started to ask if I wanted to get married in her temple (She was Jewish, Which I had no problem with)

The conversation was getting to intense. So, I blocker her.....to clingy.

Always, wanted to know what time I was gonna be on-line everyday.,
And came off as VERY desperate......Some people Are crazy..
Mars1212
Mars1212
HAHA yeah, I've been told I'm intense. I get it. I experienced some of that on the receiving end when online. One guy got mad because I didn't answer his very late calls. He was a stranger. It sent me running, I get it!
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