Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Leandra22
Leandra22

I am new to this group and I am hoping I can find people and read stories/thoughts that relate to me. In my life, it is really hard to find people and familt who can relate to my depression. I have struggled with depression since I was about 12 or 13. I have the tools and knowledge to work on it, but it always slips back into this empty, sad feeling. My partner has been getting frustrated. He tells me to smile. Think positive thoughts. Get out more. I have explained that him saying these things rarely helps or motivates me. It makes me feel useless because I can tell I am dragging him down. When I say i feel sad, he says thing like "oh i getcha, we all get sad." I find myself snapping at more. I am screaming "You don't understand because you are not a person who experiences depression." I know he is trying his best because he doesn't understand. I am just hoping someone reads this and tells me I am not alone. 

GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Hi. Not everyone is going to understand. Are you in therapy? Do you take medication? Do you have more good days or bad days? Your boyfriend means well. It is good that you are part of this support forum. Anyway, I am 63 and ended up with OCD during my first dating experience. I immediately went into therapy. Over the years, I have been to many therapists. Sometimes, I just needed someone to vent to. It's been many years since I've been in therapy but my nurse practitioner has advised me to get therapy. I have to say that I am very happy to be entering therapy again. If you are not going, please consider it. I am doing online video therapy. So convenient and she has Saturday appointments. Good luck!
maria718
maria718
Hi Leandra22,
I know very well what you are going through, it's so sad. Yes I've been the same way. Like GreenEyes727 above, I went to therapy. Can I give you a tip?
I live not too far from a State Mental Hospital (here in NYC). I don't know if you do live somewhere near one, or can travel to one, but State Mental Hospitals provide services for FREE. Where I go, I get free counseling session every week, plus a medical doctor to give me medication if I need it. It really is a great service, it's a clinic like setting, but it's for mental health. I can tell you right now, if you don't do anything it will only get worse as you get older. I'm older now too and it got to the point where I could barely work anymore. Just check and see the State mental hospitals near you, they have clinics that are FREE---I mean really free---they will bill your insurance, but there are NO co-pays and no limits on anything. They will treat you right. I've been going for 11 years now and I feel better.
Leandra22
Leandra22
Thank you GreenEyes727 and maria718. He is actually my husband and we have been together for ten years. I know he is trying my best, It must be hard having a sad wife who pretends to be happy in public. I have tried therapy and I have had a bad experience each time. I will chat with my doctor about medication. I was on medication for a time and it actually worsened my symptoms. I will see if the State Mental Hospital has a program that might be suited for me.
eli_mom
eli_mom
Hi Leandra,
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Thank you for sharing with us about how you truly feel at the moment.

When I went through empty nest syndrome, I didn't want to talk to anyone so I decided to post in one of the parent’s online support groups and I was comforted after I shared. Continue to share, we are here for you. You are not alone.

Praying for you for peace and strength. God bless you.
OysterBay
OysterBay
NYC MH hospital services are 100% FREE you say. Maria718. Sounds too good to be true.
Bluebird20
Bluebird20
Hi, Leandra, I can relate. I do not mention depression to anyone except here and and a person who experiences bouts of it herself. I was. having a hard time and mentioned it to my cousin and she was like your husband and said a lot of people are depressed which is true. Maybe it was the way I said it, .I guess I was trying to reach out because I was bottling it up or holding in the feelings. With everyone else except a psychiatrist a little who gives me medication. It is easy to snap at people in a state of depression, but I would suggest you try to stop yourself if you can
It can make things worse. Hope you feel better
Survivor321
Survivor321
I get it. There are times when I feel nobody understands what I'm going through. At times I even feel my therapist doesn't even understand.
gramybear
gramybear
I have been dealing with depression since the age of 7. I understand all too well and have been where you are with a partner. I hope the following helps you! Sending hugs.

https://www.eastidahonews.com/2017/03/7-things-depressed-wife-desperately-needs-know/
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