Oh and also.....beautiful women have a greater chance of finding a husband who makes more money compared to other men. Beauty is valuable because it can boost survival success and the overall quality of life.

It's not that I'm old. I am only 31, but I feel older . It is true that beauty is a commodity. I 'm nog even sure if my personality is all that great to make up for my physical deficits. Still, what your saying makes sense.

Feeling ugly is often more of a own feeling, it doesn't necessarily has to be true. Sometimes bullies can also pick on others because they feel jealous, it isn't always because of looks but they might think of someone as weaker or more easily to control or break down so they will feel better or stronger themselves.

Even if it really was about them thinking you were ugly back then, they aren't worth your time and thoughts now. They were certainly not nice, and they were all just a big group of cowards.

It could be that you are a very beautiful lady without being too much aware of this, a lot of people who are goodlooking doesn't think they are. They might even struggle with very low self esteem. To learn accepting yourself for who you are and like the way you look can sometimes seem as a distant goal, it is when you can accept yourself and find what is beautiful about your appearance and personality that you will truly shine out! And others will be drawn towards you because of your inner confidence. Also something a lot of people appreciate and easily notice is when you are friendly and kind, this shines out stronger and brings on more natural and true beauty over you.

In a kindergarden I worked in then I remember one of the main leaders mentioning about one girl who was a very popular leader type. She said that this girl wasn't really very beautiful but she had a very strong character shining out which made other children attracted to her. Beauty doesn't always make people chose you as a friend or want to have you in their jobs, having a strong confidence and character will win much more in the long run.

It's hard to feel attractive, when i can see so many things that are unattractive about myself. It is hard to be confidant when you feel like your effectiveness is just so clearly visible to everyone.

Then this is something that needs to be worked on. I understand it is difficult to think well about yourself if you have been a lot criticed or others have told you many times that you are ugly, worthless and all of these bad words. It might take time to really look at yourself as beautiful and have a better self worth, but take everything step by step. Learn to treat yourself well, and talk nicely to yourself. An example is to look at the mirror and to tell yourself a lot of good things.

There is always something of beauty in everyone, I do think all people have also something beautiful about them with their looks too. It is just to contemplate one self, point out what you like about yourself. Some have a really beautiful smile, some have a beautiful nose, beautiful neck, beautiful legs, beautiful eyes, beautiful hair, e.t.c... When you manage pointing out what parts you like about yourself, later you might get a much better full picture of yourself.

I don't think beauty matters. It is true that society does place more of an emphasis on beauty and beautiful people may get more attention, but if you take a look at the beautiful people that make the headlines they don't necessarily seem happier than the rest of us. How many beautiful women are the victims of infidelity and/or have their marriages end? How many are depressed and or suffer from addictions? Beauty may lead to more attention and perhaps a wealthier spouse (if that matters to anyone), but it doesn't necessarily mean their lives are better or they are happier. You hear of famous beautiful women suffering from insecurity just like the rest of us.

Not to mention how many beautiful women wish people would take them seriously instead of just brushing them off because their looks? Their is a flip side to beauty and that is the stereotype that anyone who is beautiful is not very bright and didn't earn their success. How many wish men would value them for them instead of their body?

On the flip side you have people who aren't considered beautiful that go on to lead successful lives and have happy marriages.

The point is beauty does not determine your lot in life or determine your worth. You do not need to be beautiful to be successful, live a fulfilled life, and find a good spouse. It doesn't hurt, but you don't need to be worked on from head to toe by professionals and airbrushed to hell like celebrities to lead a satisfying life.

Thank you guys for the positive messages. I am still learning how to let the good stuff in, instead of focusing on the negative. Maybe when I do I will feel different about myself. Thanks to everyone though.

I'm not a woman, but I can see how "working from the outside in" has its merits in how a woman feels about herself.

Truth be told, your CRYING is what makes you beautiful! It shows that you have a tender heart, which is very, very beautiful. Of course, you'd like to LAUGH sometimes too!

I have long believed that if you ever want to know the "value" of a person, ask a 4 year old! They seem to be able to totally overlook the superficial and focus on what really matters.

I for one do not think "beautiful" people have it easy. I may envy their outward beauty but I think I would hate to live their life because can you imagine what they have to do to upkeep that position. So outward beauty is something that is not always treasured in a way that it should be by some. True beauty is knowing how to Acknowlege all forms of beauty to me and there are so so many different forms of beauty in this life.

If people could see the beauty of someone on the inside this world would be a better place. I know people who are beautiful on the outside but rotten on the inside and treat people so badly. So to me if your a kind and compassionate person that's all that matters to me.

Don't feel bad, I look like something the cat threw up over the floor.