You're treated so differently when you're attractive.

Most people don't see the changes in their faces from aging - I used to think that could not be true, but it is true. It is a very gradual change. When I see a photo, it is just so hard to accept not resembling the younger, pretty woman at all. You should get to keep your face!

After the initial meeting, how we see someone as we get to know them has little to do with their actual appearance and is all about how we feel about them.

Everyone's opinion of beauty is different, to someone you will be the most beautiful person alive...even if you don't feel it, or believe it.

You need to find beauty in yourself, because unfortunately...you have what you have, even if you don't like it. Don't waste your life wishing you were something else, life is too short.

i know the feeling. society puts a big issue on beauty.. i am ugly as well. i know how you are treated. . ppl just do not seem to be able to look beyond that ,and no matter how hard you try it seems to get you nowhere.

TV, it has us convinced that if you are not a size 0 you are fat. Heck, even Marilyn Monroe was a size 14. Physical looks don't matter, beauty comes from the heart.

I don't want to be one of those types...but...Marilyn was a 1950's 14, which is more a modern day 10. Just sayin'.

My comment wasn't at all relevant, I just spend a lot of time in vintage clothes shops...

Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it. - Confucius

Hello Persi,

It has to do with the process of natural selection in which many traits are consider in selecting the best candidate and beauty is one of those traits, but in addition today there are other factors that influence this selection.

We do this every day by selecting friends, liking or disliking the boss and we trust more anything coming from a beautiful person and so on. Companies used to hire mainly beautiful people for the sales forces. In school how many times the first classmates we notice are the more attractive. In other words it is an innate trait that we all have but we also have evolve in the sense that we can also admire and fall in love with inner beauty with individuals that have traits such as compassion, caring, willingness and many other attributes.

Beauty is skin deep and it WILL fade away but inner beauty will not. A person can look very beautiful but the heart and soul be not so attractive, these individuals at first will have many friends and the sort but eventually all these persons around them will get tired and walk away.

You are as beautiful as you are inside and how well you carry yourself, self esteem, and confidence. All this remains me of a sitcom that run from 2006 through 2010. In a nutshell is about a person that did not look attractive and no one would ever consider her for anything, all change when she change.

A person can be so beautiful but when wearing makeup is done in a way that it makes the person look like a clown, people laugh at them.

So dont worry and be beautiful that you already are.

-Victorious

Some people think any double digit is fat. Anyway, thanks for the update. Streethassle. I thought sizes were more realistic back then.

I don't have any answers but I know it's true that people treat you differently when you're good looking. I could never get a date now because I'm not good looking at all and it's what men want. It sucks.

There is what the media purports as being beautiful and then there is what people think is beautiful in reality. That is why people come in all sorts of shapes and sizes.

Most of us have heard the saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" but the truth is some of the most beautiful people are the most ugliest.

Gosh, I don't know what to tell you. I agree that attractive people are treated differently. I dont like cliches, but this one is true: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
But you know, what difference does it make? I recently turned 59 and I couldnt care less. Would I like to be attractive? Sure, but it's no big deal.
I read somewhere that Charlize Theron's mom never made a big deal of her daughter's looks because the looks were not something she had earned.

Beauty in the inside counts more than beauty on the outside. They're some people who are pretty on the outside, but on the inside they aren't, You said you feel ugly, but I bet you're pretty. You just need to give yourself a break and learn to love yourself for who you are.

Thanks guys. I think a lot of time people pay lip service to inner beauty, in real life and not on this forum. I think the internet is better in that it lets you know someone with out this predetermination based on looks. However, in life outside of the forums I find it difficult to not feel left out because I don't look pretty. I find myself, unhealthy I know, comparing my features to others and finding myself lacking. Most times I don't think of myself as ugly, but sometimes that inner voice creeps in. I used to get bullied a lot in elementary and middle school, and my looks were an issue even back then. So I really hate being a grown woman and feeling like an 12 year old.

Beauty matters because everyone is drawn to beautiful people (the halo effect). We want to be desired and respected, along with having a wider selection of mates to choose from. Beautiful women get the attention and all the men that they can select from. The average and the ugly are forced to settle for individuals who are on the same level as them. I guess when you are dating, the first thing someone looks at is your overall physical appearance. That is the first determining factor.....second comes the personality....but ofcourse if you dont have the looks no one will be as tempted to find out if your personality is great. The sex appeal has to be present.
And if you are concerned about aging, there are plenty of procedures out there that can minimize the effects of aging. Sometimes its necessary to keep ourselves feeling better about how we look.