I understand, I would never bother trying to share
anything serious with a person like that. Better to
cut your losses. No reason to frustrate yourself.

If I'm not out of bounds, could you let us know what the scientific issue is?

sorry it wasn't a scientific issue, but the reaction to the what I was trying to talk about was the same as some folks' automatic reaction to anything scientific that does not coincide with ignorant beliefs.

the issue was a deeply personal one that I should have never even brought up to her, knowing how ignorant she is when it comes to getting on a personal level with her.

and she's probably just going to try to use it to put a wedge between me and my daughter caus she just can't help herself, she is the most pathetically jealous person I have ever met.

I am sorry that your mom is like that. Of all the people that we should be able to talk to about anything.

Guess all you can do is to keep track of what you can and can't talk to her about and limit your conversations accordingly.

Gentle hugs

Snap.
Short story - diagnosed at 16, told parents at 18, dismissed and disowned shortly after. Mum lives in LALALand. Now 21 and manage polite conversation.

Horrible situation, but it shows who you can actually rely on.

I have had that happen by people while growing up, my mother included. I could have the scientific proof right in front of her but she will either say I'm a liar, or I made it up, mostly she would say I made it up. It drives me up the wall. I wrote a pro years ago that somewhat explains what you are saying. If I can remember it off the top of my head it said something like. "When I speak to you, it's as though you are only listening to what you have decided to say next." The bottom line is that they are only hearing what they want to hear, what they can argue about, or to make you feel as if what you have to say, has no meaning or truth. Glad you vented. You are not alone in how people can make you feel. Hugs GB

When people try to figure out what I am going to say instead of actively listening to what I am trying to convey, #1 I see it immediately and #2 it is infuriating. I hate it when people try to complete my sentences. The only one who does that with any success is my wife...that's how well we know each other. For the others that try to do that, please stop. That makes me nuttier than a fruit cake!

Yes. They have their own "agenda". And yes, my mother happens to be one of those people, who means well but who is in her world, doesn't listen to me. What usually happens is I talk over her and she talks over me. Whoever talks the loudest and the most intense eventually gets heard and understood. My mother's a bulldog and can be pretty damned intense, so I have to be equally intense, assertive, persuasive.

What is this "scientific evidence" you speak? Are you combatting your mother's views about religion or spirituality with scientific evidence that there is no God?

If so, while it's important to assert your views about such things, you have to look at: Is that stuff really that important when it comes to your relationship with each other? Isn't it more important that you two love each other?

My mom is the same way. I'll be talking to her and she changes the topic mid conversation. It's not like im talking about highly important stuff but I'm trying to talk to her cause were not close. She does get jealous of me, for what reason I don't know but she does. I see a lot of me in her. I'm a daddy's girl. My dad won't go away without me. I normally get what I want. I guess that bothers her.

I'm kind of just learning that I have about a minute of talking before she changes it. But I'll take that minute gladly. Any time spent with her (since were not close) is good! I know it's frustrating but don't let it ruin everything.

I am always thrilled when my son opens up to me, since he is not much of a talker. I can't understand moms who don't listen. Glad that I was never like that. I try my best to be supportive of my son and to be a good listener. I guess next time you need someone to be there for you either seek out a good friend or come here. People here at DS are good listeners for the most part.

thanks for the replies. truth is part of me agrees with her in what I was trying to talk about, but before even hearing me out on why I would consider the alternative decision she just interupts me and starts saying "no, no, she doesn't need that" and just "no no no" without even hearing what my reasons are for considering the alternative to "no no no"

We all have our "pie in the sky" thoughts and theories of goodness and fairness, but the fucking truth as we ALL know here is that goodness and fairness is RARE, and hatefulness, spitefulness and hold you back any way they can is the reality of this world. Well anyway, thanks for being here for me.

my experance with my mother is exactualy opisit .....we were brought up that the worl was full of good people and if you were good t people they would be good to you ...all kinds of things like that ...my mother lived in this la la land but fro her it was a reality ...nothing ever bad ever hapened to her .she had a great group of friends all while she grew up ...a terrific loving family .one good thing she tought us how to love ...but when we got out in the real world ...we were tramitased by what we learned ..the types of people we met ...my brothers and sisters have all got to gether and talked about this .......but for my mother that was her life ....it is hard to imagin but we know all about her life .....I think I would of liked to lived in her la la land ....if the hole world was realy like the life she experanced ...what a place it would be .......take care ..God bless ..our house was open for any of our friends who were hungry or needed a place to talk or rest ..they just came over weather we were there or not ....a number of times there were strangers we would see making sandwisages in the kitchen ..this started when one of my brothers ....was getting into trouble ...and hanging around with other kids getting in trouble ........we never got robed ......it is hard to explain if you haven't been through it ...her life was blessed ...that's all I can say ...God bless

wow muskrattiger, that really sounds like a nice way of life.

I will post new post giving some info in to what the issues were from this post.

Slightly of topic for the OP, but what about people who start asking you questions before you have finished telling a story. I find that highly annoying too! =)