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Anxiety over funeral//trigger

meandthebeast
meandthebeast
How do you push yourself to go to a funeral and viewing when you are having high anxiety??? Seems strang I gave advice to my friend Journeyman about this and now I cant take my own advice today...

Having major anxiety and not wanting to say goodbye forever.. Forever is forever.. I wish I could of told big T how much he was appreciated and loved before he died.... Always keep in mind that you never know how fast someone can be gone.. Dont have regrets.. Always tell people how you feel about them, in a good way.. you just never know..

My DS family... Have a good weekend and be good to yourselves.....
wep
wep
I have a problem going to funerals to. When you seeing someone you know or related to dies, it is very difficult to deal with. I feel the same way, when a person is alive, you should love the person who is near you because if something bad happened to them, you'll feel bad. My heart goes out to you. In the past 4 years I known people who died, and I could not attend their funeral because I would get sick (I have scizures). I had a neighbor who died in 2008, I went to her wake (first time I ever went to one), I felt so bad and I had difficulties walking into the funeral home and view the body. When the neighbor was alive, I used to go to her home to water her flowers, and her tomatoe plant. There was a time she was not so friendly but I realized that she was sick; there was a neighbor who was only 36 years old who died in 2010. He had surgery that killed him, then we had a friend who died suddenly at home. Neither me or my mother attended the funeral because we could not deal with it.

wep
doghunter59
doghunter59
hunny... the longer we live the more that slip by....

u take care
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know it hurts really bad, but you will never forgive yourself if you don't go. I missed my cousin's funeral (he killed himself and I just couldn't bear to go... now I have to live everyday with that regret).
Go with someone you can trust. Maybe drink some warm tea and do some breathing exercises before going in to help with the anxiety?
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
Just want to tell you how much you are loved.
wep
wep
Hello again,

You know, after one neighbor died about 3 years ago, another neighbor took my mom and myself to view the body. It was simply very hard because I was used to seeing this neighbor alive and always looking out of their glass door, while sitting in their chair. I have not been in a funeral home for many years, before going into one to view the neighbor, I thought I was going to have a sciezure because like yourself I did not want to say goodbye to someone and know that I would never see them again. This morning had been an emotional morning for me (no one died physically but mentally I feel out of sources because of a family issue and I feel that I'm being picked on).
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I am going to close this, not because of a violation, but out of respect for the OP and the sorrows she associated with that event. If she requests it of me I will ask for it to be reopened.