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whatswrong19
whatswrong19

so according to my spiritual beliefs, anger is bad for everyone, for the person who's angry, and for anyone else involved.  well I'm feeling angry right now, but the person who has disrespected me is not going to be around until tomorrow evening.  Due to the nature of my job, I totally understand when people are angry with me,  but this person does not have the right to be angry about anything, as they are not the client, and the things this person was asked to do, they volunteered to do, then get angry when we take them up on it.  I am angry because at the time, I was not sure what was up, and I did not confront her, so I'm angry I did not confront her, that's really frustrating.  But in the past I've been written up for being to confrontational.  so, I'm sitting here fuming over it.  Hopefully I will feel better soon.

rosecandy
rosecandy
Hey, I feel pretty angry at the moment, too. And I feel like anger is an appropriate reaction for what I've been going through, but a lot of people obviously don't agree, and treat me like I'm a jerk for being angry about stuff that basically anyone in their right mind would be angry about. I'm just always expected to be compassionate and respectful even though I've been shown nothing but betrayal and disrespect by almost everyone I know.

I think it's healthy to acknowledge your anger when you feel angry. It's the only way to truly process it so you can move forward, hopefully to a place of understanding.

Hang in there. We all have our moments.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
thanks, I think that acknowledging it is good too. It's worse when I'm angry at myself for not telling someone who is being just plain disrespectful that they need to calm down or we will have to talk at another time, or say something to let them know they are crossing the line. I have been quick to do that in the past, and got out of the habit because I got written up twice here for doing so.
OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Without anger a person would keep every bad thought, bad emotion, bad bit inside them and stew in it until their head exploded...

Every emotion has a job or a reason. Anger gives you a way to express negative feelings, or it can motivate you to find solutions to problems.

The thing is you have to know how to handle your anger, you have to let it simmer down to a level where you can have a conversation with the person you're angry at, so that the conversation can have a purpose, a meaning, a solution and a conclusion. Because you never let anger just go simmering on, you never ignore it and let it just build away....then anger becomes hate.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
awesome reply OlderC! thank you
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Anger is a dichotomy. It is mostly destructive, but it is a primal instinct. We will never avoid our own anger. Best we can do is try to manage it. It IS very destructive.
rachelangelo
rachelangelo
Sounds like a difficult situation. Anger can be destructive when it's not vented properly. However, it's natural to sometimes feel anger. Instead of taking it out on the person, try releasing it through some form of physical exercise. This will get out the pent up emotions. Then, as hard as it can be, forgive her. Now, this doesn't mean that you forget what she's done, but it simply means that you don't let her actions affect how you feel.
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
thanks for all the support here, due to all the support and this website's existence I was able to channel it properly, and surprise! the person who made me angry actually apologized. that doesn't happen very often so it means alot when someone apologizes for being a jerk. we all act like jerks sometimes.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
sounds like a lesson well learned. nice job.
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