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tigerlily18
tigerlily18

So my anxiety has gotten worse, I am now getting panic attacks every time I go into a bath room, for no reason at all. Last night it got so bad that my fiance had to almost drag my on to my feet and hold me and still I was shaking and crying. 


And then there's my mom who snapped at me for going on a trip for my anniversary. She said that we (me and my fiance) shouldn't have gone and we should have stayed home and given her the money that we used for the trip to pay for rent when she said that we didn't have to pay rent for this month. I can't do anything thing outside of the house with out her yelling at me for never being home even tho I'm almost always home making sure the kitchen is clean picking up after the others in the house shoveling snow ECT.  It's to the point where I fear the fiance might try standing up for me and get kicked out, like my sister's bf and if I don't break up with him I'll get kicked out and disowned. And as shitty as my family is its all I have.


More and more I just want to pack a bag and disappear fall off the face of the earth.

ChronicallySuicidal
ChronicallySuicidal
I know about wanting to pack a bag and hitting the reset button. In fact, I have done it one or two times. In my opinion, holding on to certain people just because we have to does more harm than good. My advice is, if want to leave, make a plan, a foolproof one with at least 2 backup options. And do not make it seem obvious that you are planning to leave. Do not burn bridges until you are sure that you never have to use it again. Make leaving as civil as possible so that you don't face legal ramifications.
Friendless
Friendless
Same.
Fighter1986
Fighter1986
Family is just family. You were born into them, but they are not the most important thing out there. If you have the ability to, move out. Distance can do wonders for close family relationships. And having boyfriend, fiance and such in a family home, it adds stress to everyone. Not many people can live with extended family under the same roof. Saying that they are your family and all you have doesn't justify hanging around. You have a fiance. Unless that is something that is being second guessed, it is probably time to give yourselves some space from your immediate family. Letting them dictate your life and relationships and putting up with it because they're family is a sure way to be miserable.
Imnotalone
Imnotalone
I'm sorry you're going through this. Living with family is hard as adults if there are not clear boundaries in place. I'm also a little old fashioned in that I don't think it's a good idea to live with a boyfriend or even a fiance prior to marriage even though it sometimes makes financial sense. Do you have some good girlfriends that you can move in with and share the rent? Unfortunately, no matter how old you are when living with parents they will always treat you as their child, for better or for worse. I'm not sure many parents do that to be mean it's just a default mode that hopefully comes from genuine love and wanting to see their children succeed. However, adult children want their freedom when living under their parents roof. This usually never ends well and as Fighter1986 said - everyone ends up miserable. Praying that things get better for you and you can see a clear path of your future living situation so you'll have better mental health.