Pain!!!!!!!!

Love is (among other things) when one other's happiness give you happiness.

No doubt max. No doubt :-)

Well I found myself trying to discover what love really is about because it truly has eluded me until I became a mother and it took on a very different form. It seemed to me an emotion just as any other and could be shaken or destroyed so easily by someone but the truth seems to me that it really and truly cannot be destroyed unless you no longer let it reside in you.

For me, love is the last one standing. All the other things seem to change and fade. Real love, though, seems to sustain and nourish. And I am going to disagree with max about love and pain being one and the same. Pain is pain, but love is love. Pain has come to me in many guises, and by many paths. But never through love.

Love ROCKS!

No Brag, Just Fact.

Well...I personally do not know about love and pain being one but if you ever have loved....you most certainly have felt some form of pain. Rage can be a camoflauge for love at times to me.

I knew a woman (deceased) that made all that met and or knew her feel loved. I believe it was divine. I think there are precious few humans that master the ability to love well. I certainly haven't. It is my greatest criticism of myself. I find it hard to be loving. I find it easy to be critical and judgmental and unforgiving. That's my reality. I care a lot about others but I find it hard not to get pissed at them for even little shit that shouldn't matter. Then I beat myself up for being so unloving....it simply has always been hard or me to love. People's treatment of me ends up offending me and I build a resistance to them. Damaging, wrong and maddening but true.

Love? I don't think it has anything to do with pain or rage or anything negative. If it does to you, maybe you think your in a loving relationship but it is not love.

Love to me is a wonderful feeling. Like someone said earlier, it makes you want more for them than yourself and nothing makes you happier than to see them smile. They also wan't the same for you. Love just makes you very happy inside to see and be with that person. Love is something that makes you trust the other with your life. I think there are different forms of love. There is love of family, there is the love you have for your child, and then there is love that you have for your spouse. Sure, you will argue at times, that's a given. But love is, standing by and being willing to forgive.

I do not mean that love is allowing someone to walk all over you. Nor is it allowing someone to abuse you or beat on you. That is not love, it is more of the person wanting to control you. Love is not there. Please get out of that relationship if at all possible.

I am trying to figure this out myself.

I've been questioning it myself BYD. I thought I knew. Actually, I know that I knew, but I wonder if it has escaped me.

Love should not be pain but for some such as my self it seems to turn out that way. This is now what I believe love is.

love gives you so much more than you could ever dare dream of..sadly so many people attach negative emotions and define it as love... Corinthians defines it so beautifully ....."Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres"....if you give love in this way...you will never be dissapointed

At this point in my life I can not see love ...true love ever entering my life again. I had my chance.

So which is better to be loved or be in love?That I don't know....

Max,

To be loved by someone you love.

I guess I've yet to find that...But I wonder if I'm capable of a relationship anyway..

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