I do, I have depression and I get days where I can hardly get out of bed. I don't feel I have the energy or motivation to do anything. I just have all my dark thoughts running through my head and I thin what's the point. Some have it worst then others do. Trying talking to him about it. He may not be sleeping at night and need to during the day instead. I had insomnia for a while then I eventually just got so tired I slept all the time it seemed but I mostly tossed and turned I didn't feel well rested even though everyone else saw me sleeping a lot.

Depression can be paralyzing....if the person suffering from it lets it. They do have a choice. The only way to break thru the depression is to make yourself go through the natural daily routines that we all do. He shouldn't be allowed to sleep all day. He should have to get up, eat breakfast, take a shower, go for a walk in the sun (Vitamin D is good for Depression) and try to reengage with his family. This is not an easy thing to do, he will literally have to make himself do each and every little thing, but day by day, week by week he will get better.

If he's allowed to just lay in bed and sleep all day, then his depression will get worse until he just decides not to live anymore. He needs to be under the care of a Psychiatrist and probably on medication.

Its hard to stay in a relationship where the other person is basically a ghost....if he's not made to do things, then he'll continue to be that ghost.

My husband is the same at the moment (I don't have kids). He's sleeping a lot, stays up late watching shows and then usually falls asleep on the couch. In the past I tried to get him to wake up in the middle of the night to come to bed with me, but lately I've stopped doing that - instead letting him sleep. When he's awake he spends most of his time watching shows and getting high... he tells me he's just extremely tired and he has no other answers for me.

Hi, first thanks for the very constructive replies. My hubby got postpartum depression. Our baby is two months old and I was working so hard to make sure I didn't get it myself that my partner's depression really took me be surprised and really unprepared. I have been very unsure on how to support him best. I think patience is a must as it takes time to heal. I try to think of it as a broken leg to make sure I don't push him too hard either. He is on medication but not yet ready to see a mental health professional.
We tried to find solutions but it's been very trying. His family has been staying over for a week now and he wants them to come again next weekend. However I feel overpowered by his mother who doesn't respect my ways of parenting. My own child is barely in my arms at all and I feel at the edge myself now. On one hand, I am grateful for their support and I do not want to upset my already very depressed partner but I do not want them again so soon. On the other hand my partner really relies on his mother for support. I would like him to stay with them rather than them coming over. He is the one who needs their support not me and not my baby and I feel his mother is satisfying her needs towards the baby first. I am feeling very down now. I feel unable to support my partner and unable to protect my child.
I hope you are doing better than me. I think that a family therapy might be the best way to go for us and I hope my partner will accept, as I really need some practical and mental support to find a common ground with my partner in getting the whole family through this crisis. Those are scary times. Please let me know how you're getting on. I hope your situation has improved.
Kind regards

Wow this sounds so familiar! My husband is in the same boat, and he blames his meds. Which could be true... but with kids, it's really hard when he's sleeping all the time and there are things to be done. He has the worst night routine habits too (falling asleep in front of the tv, going to bed way too late) but all of my gentle nagging doesn't help. Any suggestions how to deal with this? I wish he could see that his decisions affect the whole family... when he chooses to just be on his phone or tv until he falls asleep, he gets tired and then is tired the entire next day. But I'm sure his meds make him sleepy too, so I can't blame him, it's just hard all around....