Deep Vein Thrombosis (DVT) Support Group
Deep-vein thrombosis, also known as deep-venous thrombosis or DVT, is the formation of a blood clot ("thrombus") in a deep vein. It can be caused by something preventing blood from circulating or clotting normally. Join the support group if you are coping with DVT and find others who are going through the same challenges.
On the flip side, though, I have a friend who is FVL positive, and she's never even clotted. They tested her because her sister or someone tested positive. She just takes a baby aspirin every day and is fine. She's had two kids, and she did heparin shots while pregnant.
Having FVL doesn't have to be anything horrible. It's just another color in your rainbow. :-)
I have had one superficial clot in my arm from an IV and one DVT after knee surgery. I did 6 months of warfarin (stopped 6 months ago).
I was honestly relieved to hear I tested positive. It stopped the "why me" feelings.
My understanding is that FVL hetero isn't a huge risk for unprovoked clots. I know some people clot for no apparent reason, but for me I am pretty confident that I am safe from clots unless I am in a situation with higher risk. If it does happen, I know what to look for now, and I'll try to get anything checked out immediately. For increased risk situations, I will take precautions. I definitely won't be taking any hormones and I might re-think elective surgery if I'm in that situation again, but even in that case I think the extra precautions can keep me safe.
I then clotted whilst on warfarin in 2010, PE in each lung
I then clotted again whilst on warfarin in 2012,. PE
I think it is VERY rare to clot on warfarin though!
RE: Life after clotting - People take their dx of FVL different ways. Some get really bogged down in it, some go "ok" and move on. Even though you move on, it still wiggles in the back of your brain, and that's ok. Have I made a few different decisions since my dx? Yeah, but life is pretty much the same. I don't wake up thinking "today is the day I'll clot again." You just can't do that to yourself. If you're not past that point, hopefully you will be soon. Like physical healing, emotional and mental healing takes time, and everyone's on a different timeline.
Even though we run a higher risk of clotting, there are so many preventative things you can do that are lifestyle - eating healthy, exercising, etc - I've taken cooking classes and I run/walk half marathons and have had so many neat adventures now! I was 23 when I clotted, and I plan to be around for a ridiculously long time, Lord wiling.
All that to say, FVL (or F2L, or prothrombin, or whatever), isn't the end of life as you know it. Not everyone will understand (and honestly, I've told almost no one), but they don't have to. You have to come to your own peace and your own normal and be the best YOU that you can be in this life.
It's not fun to have an illness but like anything else you manage. My life is no less fulfilling because of what happened to me. You take the bad with the good.
Honestly it's only a minor hassle. It's just taking blood thinners and getting a lab once a month to not get sick again.
I wouldn't get too worked up over this. Besides most of us on this forum are rare cases anyway chances are you wont be in our camp.
I agree it's something you just have to find some peace with. It's funny but for people who've never been given a definitive reasons for their clots would probably find relief in this diagnosis. Funny how perspectives can be so different based on one's situation.
You have a right to grief and your worries, but seriously, it's something you don't have to lay awake at night feeling bummed about it and guilty over what you passed on to your kids. It's the nature of having a family that certain genes are passed on. I mean, no one has control over that, unless the already are aware they have some genetic issue and decide to have children. But sheesh it's not like a character flaw simply because you have a blood clotting factor.
Also if it's going to cause you a great amount of stress worrying that you're going to get another clot, you could talk to your doc about getting back on anticoagulants, if that's something you think would be beneficial to you.
I have a chronic disease so I get the idea that you have a disorder and it's a bummer to know you have it forever, but really, how you move forward, how you see yourself, how you decide whether to live in fear or live well, that's all a choice. Those unhappy people on the Factor V Leiden group, they choose to be unhappy.
I love that line from Shawshank Redemption, "get busy livin' or get busy dyin'" because it's so freakin' true. Everything's a choice.
Hope you don't waste another second of your life lamenting this. It's wasted energy. You are alive, informed and whole still. There's not much most people could ask for.
My husband's family is awash in Factor V, but my FIL travels internationally on a regular basis and is even married to a woman who lives part-time in Singapore. My husband's aunt and cousin both have it too, and both have happy, healthy kids; neither one has ever clotted. His sister was negative, but they tested her before she started on BC, just to be sure.
It's really very manageable and it can honestly be quite helpful to have a solid diagnosis when managing these things with your family and doctors. Me, I've had to argue my way into Lovenox shots after surgery ... something I think wouldn't have happened if I had been able to point to a solid diagnosis and force the docs to deal with that. There are some blessings to having an identifiable clotting disorder, as opposed to being one of us who clots "for some reason."
Even so, it can be hard to wrap your mind around something like this. Take some time to grieve this change in your self-perceptions, but do realize it doesn't guarantee you'll ever clot again. It might just mean that you're safer and better informed about clots, symptoms, and causes than the vast majority of the population.
And I second what everyone said about not judging your future based on anonymous strangers from one internet board. The whole purpose of being here is for people to find others who have similar problems. You don't go searching out a forum for support when things are hunky dory. :-)