I had been married for over 10 years when I was diagnosed with UC, and thankfully my wife has stayed with me and stayed supportive through all of the problems. I know it is hard on her and at times I am surprised she continues to put up with all it entails.

You are lucky. Mine left me for another woman once i had my surgery. She sounds like a keeper:)

I try to tell my wife she could do better and all she does is just laughs at me. She is such a blessing our work roles have changed she is now the bread winner and Im johnny homemaker everytime I get sick shes right there by my side huging me and telling me how much she loves me. Its such a great feeling. Its hard on her and I lavish her with as much praise as I can muster and when Im feeling down about it she looks at me and tells me how she couldnt do this without me. She could raise the boys on her own and besides who else can keep the computer running when she breaks it. So I guess I have some use around here after all. I love her dearly and I know she loves me. We can talk about anything and everything and we dont hide from each other. Thanks for leting me share
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My wife and I haven't been intimate at all since we've been married, but I don't think that has anything to do with Crohns, I think thats for other reasons. We don't hold hands, hug, kiss, none of that no more. We've even discussed sleeping in different rooms.

Anyway, regarding the crohns and our relationship, my Fistulas can be quite bloody, and its probably hard for us, because she can't stand the sight of blood, and I'm also blind, so it can be a problem sometimes. I have many relatives who are nurses, which I always think would help, but they live in other states. My family just says my wife should be helping me out more, but she don't even like to see me naked, much of less the sight of blood in the bathroom or bedroom, so it can be an issue, especially since I'm allergic to adult male guards, those paper guards, and its hard for me to put tape around my butt, so yeah I guess u could say it affects our relationship a great deal.

Hi guys! My husband has UC and it has never been an issue for us. He was diagnosed at a very young age...I think he was maybe 7. It was very rare for such a young child to be diagnosed, but it is under control now. He takes a few meds and goes in for A colonoscopy every few years.
I look at it like this: He is who he is with or without UC. I fell in love with Mike, not his digestive system! :O)

My first husband was immature and thought I used my illness as an excuse not to take care of his needs. Needless to say, I haven't had a flare up since my divorce!

My current hubby is great - he knows that there may be times where we have to leave somewhere or rush to the washroom and he never has a problem with it! I lucked out the second time around!

Jimmy, it sounds like you have found Ms. Right! I was married for 25 years when I was Dx with UC. My hubby is still here and in most ways is a terrific guy. He has always been my support.

I am so happy to hear that your girlfriend is so understanding and your relationship is strong. I was married for 11 years when I got diagnosed, and my H couldn't handle it. He had an affair that lasted the whole first year of my diagnosis and then some. It nearly killed me.

Find any way you can to let her know how much you appreciate her...you're very lucky.

I have been married for seven years. And had been sick five before me and my husband have been married .He is very supportive. It's my other family like mother ,father and siblings that suck. They think i guess that i am weak. But my husband and children are living this with me.It takes a great person to listen to us whine all the time.

Well where to start, i haven't been on line in along time and nor have i been in a relatiionship... Ijhave been on my own almost my who live and have suffered with Crohns for 15 years now always flared up !!! i havent worked now in like 8 months. Depressing yes and sometimes i am glad to be on my own only because i haven't met the right man !!! I am on anti-depressants , waiting for Humira, on endocort,and metho-trexate plus folic acid pill ? It is very hard to get involved with some one and have to explain all the surgurys ihave had and still haven't fully healed from !!!!!!!!!!! nice to talk again i will try and sty in touch but don't really care for computer.......

My wife has been very supportive and always there for me especially when my abdominal pain hits. I am truly blessed........

Hate to be the downer, but I have not been in a relationship since I have been diagnosed. I was dating someone when I first became ill, but he did not address it properly....

In all honesty, the more that I think about UC and how it has really affected my life, I am not sure if I will meet someone that is willing to be there for the long haul. UC causes so many changes in me--both emotionally and physically--and I am not sure that someone new will want to deal with that.

I believe that I would have to meet someone who REALLY likes me and is VERY supportive in order to have a successful relationship with him.

I am not too sure that that persion exists though--that's alot to ask in the beginning of a relationship.

well sugah... for a long time i tried to hide that side of my life when in a new relationship, and well... none of those EVER worked out for me.
When starting out with this relationship (aand one before it that didn't work out because we weren't right for each other)... i stated at the beginning, even before any emotion attachment, what i had. i didn't go into any details, we went over that as time went on... but most everyone has a medical somthing or other nowadays. But hell, it literally took me years of repairing the emotional damage this disease caused me before i was ready to truly date and be in a healthy relationship.

my husband actually says he feels that he has been made a better person by seeing what iv'e gone through.we have missed or delayed trips,cancelled plans etc. Still i try to keep it all to myself but that is sometimes not possible ,as you know.

I was engaged to get married when I was first diagnosed. She could not deal with the idea of having to help me once in a while, and so she left me while I was in hospital. This was about five years ago. I have not been in a relationship since. Most women do not want anything to with you once they learn more about the disease.