kind words is all it takes to make someone smile, it works for me..
I have a feeling she knew you love her,woman know stuff like that I think..then what do I know? I am mans, man ha ha.
hugs to you all.

when you have to go...you have to go..
its nice she had people checking on her and near by...
lucky lady I think..bliss her and all her lucky family who gotten to love her in their own way.. {o)

So sorry about the loss of your cousin. I have a lot of cousins that I do not see on a day to day basis, maybe only once a year ,we are scattered all over the nation. But we know we love each other, and as family, if needed we will be there if possible. I have no doubt this lady knew she was loved.
As for her sitting on the potty, that is a normal function we all do, and I am sure the ambulance, police, and coroner could have cared less, and have seen folks in worse situations That part of the equation did not even need to be mentioned.
again, sorry for the loss of your cousin. Yes, tell those you love, that you love them, or care about them, or like them, what ever it is. I use facebook to keep up with my family since I am home bound. And i have my security settings to family only and a very few close friends.
BJ

Thanks.... I've talked to most of my relatives over the last 2 days and no doubt there will be a gathering of the clan for cousin Becky. A celebration of life they call it these days which sounds so, so much better than a funeral. I'm honestly glad you don't hear that word too often any more because really who wants to go to a funeral but a celebration of life?? I'm up for that. Just a change of the name seems to change the whole tenor of the gathering. You'd never laugh or have fun at a funeral but at a celebration of life you might just be inclined to tell funny stories about the passed person, be able to dress in comfortable clothes and sit in a comfortable chair rather than a pew, have a few drinks and some good food and see the person off with a bit of a party.... I don't know if much of the new generation will come, the neices and nephews. Not much reason to since they'd not have known her well, but if it is like I expect, and it's just the 30 or so remaining aunts, uncles and cousins then the gathering or recreation room in my uncle Norms (Becky's dads) old folks independant living appartment building ought to fit the bill quite nicely and the $30 fee beats the heck out of the $300-$500 most halls want for rental. It's actually where we held my mothers celebration of life since it's hard to get a place on short notice like it is when someone passes.

How tragic for and your family. Hurts even more if the reason for your cousin's death was preventable i.e. possible food poisoining.

Initially, regrets always seem to linger after the passing of a loved one. I believe we'll always have regrets. As more time goes by we concentrate on appreciating the life that was lived and recognize that we did our best - no regrets.

Yes, celebration of life is the new thing, and it is so much better than a somber funeral. I once told the funeral director at our local funeral home, before a funeral started that I was attending, that when I pass, I do NOT want that slow, tear jerking music they play.
Of course I want it nice and dignified, but I want people to remember me, and talk about me and laugh at some of my stupid things I done...ect
Death is part of life, so instead of tears, which will be there anyway, also there can be smiles as everyone looks at pictures of her as she grew up, and hears about her achievements. I have gone to funerals and now I prefer the celebration of life. Blessings to you and your family, and again sorry or your loss.
Brenda

Thanks for pointing out that life can be a celebration, and that a passing is also worth celebrating since we are passing from one life form into another.

Beautifully put.

i'm sorry for your loss....as for the way she died; you would be surprised how many people die on the toilet (elvis).
my father died of pancreatic cancer, but guess where --- the stress getting up in his weakened condition was too much.
also, we had this discussion before--- don't strain hard to go.
there is a nerve called the "vegas" nerve that straining hard will stop the heart.
i kid you not google it.

So sorry for your loss. It is true to let everyone know how much you care --- time is so short

ain't that the truth. I'm 48 which isn't really old I know, but looking back I can remember high school and being in grade 12 and it feels like it was just a few short years ago.

Time has a funny way of working. When I was young, like in elementary school, it took just about forever for a year to pass. the time between summer vacations was an eternity it seemed. As I got older year by year time began to speed up somehow and now, at 48, I blink and a year is gone.