Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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jokiwhau 09/12/2014

I have been separated for almost a year, and my divorce (after being married for 22 years) will be final sometime in October.

I am so mad at myself right now! I keep feeling so lonely, and I miss him so much. I keep obsessing and feel like I want to ask him to come back, when I know it is not the best thing for me! I am going to stay strong and eat lots of chocolate.........LOL

WHY WHY WHY do we codependent people obsess about other people this way? It is so frustrating!!!

hbgdaystar 09/12/2014

Because familiarity of known is deeply embeded in our Brains.
Its okay to feel what you are feeling ... its not that you want him in your life its more you are grieving loss of the dream. Dont be hard on yourself sometimes our codependency talks to us ... tell yourself some positive things.

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gigglemon 09/12/2014

Be easy on you! That's a lonnng relationship to be climbing out of. You have to greive it at ur own pace. Its awesome that you recognize that your desire to reach out to him is not good for you. When it gets too strong reach out here.and practice selfcare!
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deleted_user 09/12/2014

It's funny how what we know and what we feel are always fighting. I hope it eases for you soon.

jokiwhau 09/12/2014

Thanks everyone - I really appreciate the comments!

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