What I find is that the healthier or the wiser we get then the fewer friends we will have.

People who do drugs have lots of friends, and drunks have lots of friends, but as we grow smarter then those kinds of friends are not worth having.

I be friendly with most people, and usually I am friendly with everybody, but most people want some thing in return for being friendly, and that is very often where my healthier boundaries draw the line.

If you ever get one (1) or maybe two real friends that respect you and that you can truly trust, then that is as close to heaven on earth as anyone can truly get.

In my own findings and my own opinion of course.

I agree with Booky and can tell you I have one friend in Mexico and 2 in the USA. I'm sorry you're feeling sad, I get that way too.

I really appreciate what Booky said about the heathy and the wise having few friends. My mother had a saying in spanish that translates that it is better to be alone than in bad company. I am finding that being alone is actually nice.I finally had to tell myself I am not a teen ager needing a date every weekend or friends around me all the time. I am getting comfortable with myself and learning to relax and enjoy the peace. I know that in life all things change, and so I must savor where I am now...even if it is alone.

Really liked your answer 'sweetshortandsad'

So true

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Yea its sad sometimes to do things alone but there is something to be said about being comfortable with yourself. Spiritually we are NEVER alone. There is a book written about a woman who hiked the appalacian trail alone. She didnt see a human being for 8 days. Now thats alone. No phone or electronics. Just nature. Nature is wonderful. Together in spirit with you!!

I can relate to this as well. I agree that a friendship should go both ways and those friendships are hard to find.

I too am learning that as I start to draw my boundaries I have fewer friends. I now have only one girlfriend I truly trust, and that's a blessing just as Booky said. My husband is my other true friend and besides him are my little dogs. I get a little sad too sometimes because it would be nice to have a few girlfriends to go and do things with.

Thanks for sharing that Booky and everyone.

I agree with Booky: As long as you're "damaged", you can find plenty of friends who feel the same way! Misery loves company! Plenty of lost souls in hell.

As soon as you become HEALTHY, it seems very hard to find healthy friends. The unhealthy ones only call ya when they need something from ya.

As far as doing things alone that won't be so sad, try doing things alone that make you laugh, like watching comedy movies! Call others if you feel like it. Otherwise, let others call you if they will.

At my age, it's harder to find people to do things with. And then, if using someone for the company, it rarely goes well, if the mutual interest isn't there. So that's where the line is drawn. If the company is just because I don't want to be alone, that is the wrong reason.

I hate to go to the movies alone. When I do go, I am depressed as people go together in groups of friends or as couples. And I have no one to discuss the movie with afterwards. So I become more isolated, watching movies on dvd. I don't go out to dinner alone, as the restaurants are filled with groups of friends or couples. Shielding myself with a book stopped being trendy 20 years ago. so I either do take out or eat at home. Alone.

I'm glad people are enjoying their own company. I have lived alone for over 15 years and I can tell you: it sucks. And friends don't grow on trees. I find it harder & harder to meet likeminded people. Makes me realize there must be something wrong with me. Would be nice to go dancing. Would be nice to go out to dinner. But I do not feel like talking or dancing with myself, thanks. I do enough of that.

Good Luck.

You might try the over 50 "Dating and Sexuality group".

But I must say that the name of that group is far more interesting then actually being in that group.

How about taking dancing lessons or joining a club or volunteering? My mother has meet several people by joining a club and taking the occasional evening class that interests her. You will meet like-minded people in class. And I'm sure you wouldn't be the only one to take, say, a ballroom dance class. Try something new!