Hi...I totally understand where you are coming from. Unfortunately when alone, my mind can quickly become my worst enemy. However, I have to want it bad enough to do it...so I have just started reading some really positive books, writing affirmations to pin up around my place, even time with my kitty helps me to just relax and focus on me and not spend the entire time worrying or being down about something. It is hard to quiet my mind, but I will keep trying. Just be good to yourself. It is not always easy to do. Just know you are not alone and there are alot of us out there who are feeling the same way. Take care.

Here are a few things to keep in mind - when learning to take care of yourself....

1. Learn to air your feelings.

Don't keep them bottled up inside you. Share your sorrows and disappointments with someone you trust. Remember, expressed feelings are changed feelings.

2. Avoid comparing yourself with others by admiring their gifts and ignoring your gifts.

This kind of envy causes self-disgust. Put no one's head higher than your own.

3. Form a small group of people you can call on for emotional support.

Agree to "be there" for each other. Offer advice only when it is asked for. Listen without interrupting. Take turns talking and listening.

4. Take time to play.

Remember that play is any activity that you do just because it feels good. Remind yourself that you deserve to take time to play.

5. Don't forget to laugh, especially at yourself.

Look for the humor in things around you. Let your hair down more often. Do something silly and totally unexpected from time to time.

6. Learn to relax.

You can find books, tapes, programs, classes, instructors and other materials to teach you how to relax. Relaxation improves the mind, helps the body heal, and feels so much better than stress and tension.

7. Protect your right to be human.

Don't let others put you on a pedestal. When people put you on a pedestal, they expect you to be perfect and feel angry when you let them down.

8. Learn to say no.

Create Boundaries!!! When you have healthy boundaries you don't go through life feeling used and abused. As you become comfortable saying no to the unreasonable expectations, requests or demands of others you will discover that you have more compassion. When you do say yes to others, you will feel better about yourself and the people you're responding to.

9. Change jobs if you are miserable at work.

First, try to figure out if the job is wrong for you or if certain people are causing you to feel miserable at work. Try paying more attention to the things you enjoy about your job and less attention to the things that annoy you. Remember that all jobs have some unpleasant aspects.

10. Stretch your muscles. - Take care of yourself Physically.

Break a sweat. Go for a walk. Ride a bike. Park farther from the door. Take the stairs. You don't need fancy clothes, club memberships or expensive equipment to add exercise to your daily life.

11. Practice being a positive, encouraging person.

Each time you give others a word of encouragement you not only feel better, but you build up your best self.

12. Pay attention to your spiritual life.

Slow down. Practice sitting quietly. Listen to your inner voice. Spend time thinking about the things which bring peace, beauty and serenity to your life. Find the courage to follow your own spiritual path if a traditional religion has not been helpful for you.

13. Stretch your mind. Take care of yourself by continuing to educate yourself. Take a class at least once a year, take up a new hobby, a new sport, join a group.

These are the most important things in taking care of yourself, they really should keep you not only busy, they make you a very interesting and healthy person.
Good Luck!!

Thank you for your words. I know there are a lot of us out there feeling the same way. I wish there was some sort of universal support group so that we all didn't have to feel so lonely!

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Taking care can mean any number of things. Somethings to give up & something to take up.
Measurable and tangible goals.
Physical; exercise daily, eat well, avoid unhealthy foods.
Emotional, avoid crazy makers. Create the environment you want, what do you want to surround yourself with? Hopefully healthy relationships & friends.
Mental, avoid unnecessary worry & junk food for the mind ie. women's gossip magazines & soap operas. Read books, engage in crafts.
Spiritual, practise prayer and meditation.

What I've learned about myself is it's all about letting go of my own controls. When I finally realized that I can't control what other people say or do, I started to relax. It didn't happen over night but over time. Worrying is just another way of trying to fix or control various situations. For me, my faith in God and what I believe in got me through. If I just realize that He's in charge, than I can just relax. I know this almost sound 'insane' but it's true and has worked for me. There's no sence in worrying about things that I have absolutly no control over. In this I found time to take care of me and begin to like myself a bit too. For what it's worth, you're in my prayers tonight.

For every negative thought you have, sit down and write 5 positive things..Also like PF said don't sit and stew on anger.. All it does is fester and poison your serenity... Find some unconditional love through your children or pets....All too often it us that put "conditions" on our selves with our negative thinking..Learning to accept the things we can not change out your selves and let it go..A walk up a hill start with a single step, take your time and don't beat your self up on the way..

Great post, very helpful thank you one and all x