I wonder what it means to dream about homes or houses.

These are not just any houses....these are the most creative, most fab, most lavishly desiigned homes I have ever seen....but only in my dreams.

Never the same huge glorious house....but always a running theme for decades. I decided the house might be myself under construction?

Who or what could be so magnificently designed but a human that houses the spirit.

I used to have dreams about being uncomfortable with certain people being in my house or being uncomfortable in the houses of others. It sounds like you've figured out what your dreams mean but I'd add not only is it about you being 'under construction' (as the houses keep changing) but that you're realising your value without the need for doing anything. It's a natural process. It makes me think of the key phrase that I keep reading in co-dependency books; progress not perfection. Anything you create, naturally, effortlessly and unconsciously is far better than anything that you could strive to create consciously.

That is so true! So many of us get lost in the hyper shuffle of life to deeply relax, sleep and dream, realizing that the answer to many of our problems already resides deep within us, and dreams uncover those answers.

I had an amazing dream where I was dropping in on my deceased brother, who seemed to be talking, over a card-table, with who seemed like my dad's deceased father. I could hear the HUM of their voices without really hearing what they were saying, as I've heard is the case in the spirit world (devoid of lips and tongue, we merely hum, produce the VIBRATIONS of speech). My brother, ever the dutiful grandson, was dutifully listening to his grandfather talk on and on, but I could feel that a part of him was exclaiming "Get me out of here!", so true to form for him! I didn't want to intrude on their conversation, so I propelled myself away from there, much as my brother would have probably liked for me to hang out with him for awhile.

The dream was SO real, and brought me a great deal of peace, knowing that he is perfectly OK on the other side, and that it's OK for me to drop in on him and visit him anytime, in my dreams.

I've never had experiences of dreaming about those on the other side or experiences from the other world. However, I would put that down to the fact that I've never actually lost anyone close to me. It must have been reassuring to feel like everything was OK for your brother and that there was nothing to worry about. I feel like my dreams show me various things and it's like they're saying 'hey, everything is all right and it's panning out just like it's meant to.'

Saying that, I did have one dream about a friend I hadn't seen for about 18 months. I dreamt that we had an awkward reunion. The next day, he bumped into me. I didn't actually notice him in reality, so he needed to draw my attention to him.

My dreams are anxiety dreams. If the ending is upsetting or affects my inability to go back to sleep, I force myself to sit & revisualize the dream and create a different ending, one that feels more empowering (many of my dreams I am being attacked, yelled at, chased, abused). It's taken awhile to turn it from theory into practice. A little trick my therapist suggested at the time. Works for me :)

Thanks for sharing that Amelah. I think that would be useful for me in my wakeful moments, imagining things turning out better. My dreams used to be quite violent and terrifying. Now, they're pretty mundane or beautiful and I feel loved. The best dreams are where I handle an abusive relative really well, which I'm doing more and more often during the time I'm awake.