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Mars1212
Mars1212

I feel bad, a friend that I've known for a long time really wants to go out with me.  I used to be interested in him like eight years ago.  He led me on for about six to nine months, until I gave up on it. When I gave up on it, the tables turned and then he got obsessive toward me. Prior to that he treated me like an option, made a lot of excuses, and said he was not ready for a relationship but was really dating someone else.


I've run into him at get togethers.  At least twice he's cornered me in the parking lot to 'discuss his feelings.' I told him point blank that I was not into it anymore.


I ran into him again this weekend, and it happened again.  He followed me out to the parking lot and tried to corner me for a private conversation.  I said I had to leave and then promptly got into my car.


I don't know why, I feel like I "should" like him, that I "should" be attracted to him, he's nice, good job, cute.  IDK, there is nothing there. His pushiness scares me.  I know it's a boundary thing, I just can't get my feelings back, I don't know what it is. He overwhelms me. 

hasty_05
hasty_05
I wish you could read this from a strangers point of view. He sounds creepy and aggressive. It’s all about him. The way he has cornered you in parking lots sounds bad, scary, aggressive in a bad way. You should be scared of his aggression because he has showed you a pattern of behavior. Now believe this pattern and how he is. Please be self-protective. Block him on your phone and social media. It’s more than a boundary thing. Read the book Life Code, and don’t give chances to this guy. Say no more clearly to him. Some will say I’m overthinking or overreacting but please read what you wrote out loud to yourself and hear the sociopathic behaviors in this guy. Stop calling him a friend- he isn’t your friend.
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