I had a friend, who is the administrator for a Facebook group I belong to, ask me my thoughts on letting my ex-husband join the group.
My ex and I have a history of having a hostile relationship since our divorce. It started of course when I started setting boundaries and insisting that he maintain them. Also, there is still a lot of anger from me towards because I recognized later how much I was manipulated to my detriment in the marriage.
The group is for parents of adults of individuals with special needs. I use the group to get resources for myself and ask questions. I've used the group to vent my frustrations about him and the things he has done regarding my sons and daughter.
It has been my support and I don't think he should join because I would have to give it up for myself.
At first I felt that allowing him to him would be me showing that I could be the bigger person but then I decided that I need the group and have used it for years. I don't need him taking away a resource from me.
He has a church group that he attends that does the same thing. He doesn't have to join my support group.
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