Personally i would go to alanon meetings And let
him deal with his own troubles and try to detach
From him. Do not enable him.

You can only fix and Control yourself not him. Thats
his job to take Care of himself and his problems. You
Have choices and free will, HUGS

Thank you for your reply mirandac, but what happens when rent day comes and his money isn't there to cover it? :( that's the question that keeps going round in my brain...

You could move out or make him move out.

I don't know your situation so its your call
And life, HUGS

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/families-friends-of-addicts

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/wives-of-alcoholics

You're going to have to move to somewhere where you can pay the full rent.

As to whether he comes too or not, I guess that's another issue. But you have to take responsibility for your own survival.

These types of relationships pretty run the same course
Over and over again until you can get healthy enough and
get some kind of clarity going on.

Its the attachment between the addict and the Codependent.
Narcs love codies too for the same reasons. Who else would
Put up with them and always put them first.

We are just as sick as they are, we need to hand The reins over.
This is where being with others in alanon helps you, you are not
alone Or any different with your issues or problems. Your answers
And solutions lie within you with your own Change and growth.

We are not in charge of another adult only ourselves thats who
needs our help, me myself and I. I needed to get better, stronger
And Emotionally healthier with some help from a good Therapist
and an alanon group.

Thats my take on whats going on and how to deal with it, best of luck
With the financials and the bill paying, you only can fix and control Yourself
not him or your relationship.

To have a healthy mature relationship both people should have self
Love onboard and both people should have strong healthy boundaries
in Place, HUGS