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"Wait a minute I think i know myself better than you know me... How can you say I know it when I am saying I dont know about it and walked away from the situation "...
These are the exact sentences i spoke today to my colleague who was screaming on top of her voice that I know about something which i dont. I have been her punching back 3 times before and i recognize this pattern and didn't wanted to take it this time. I am usually a perso of ACOA - "We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism "
It is interesting where i got this sense of rationality at that point of time.. I am surprised. I guess its all to do with recovery work. Proud of myself.
Was in anger so got a glass of water, vented it out to a colleague but felt something was not right so i called a recovering friend and explained the situation that i was uneasy She said "Remember the laundry list from ACOA from yesterday "We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others." She hit right on spot...
Once i knew its the guilt it was easy for me to let go and move on with the day... The Screaming colleague was apologetic within few hours.
These are the exact sentences i spoke today to my colleague who was screaming on top of her voice that I know about something which i dont. I have been her punching back 3 times before and i recognize this pattern and didn't wanted to take it this time. I am usually a perso of ACOA - "We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism "
It is interesting where i got this sense of rationality at that point of time.. I am surprised. I guess its all to do with recovery work. Proud of myself.
Was in anger so got a glass of water, vented it out to a colleague but felt something was not right so i called a recovering friend and explained the situation that i was uneasy She said "Remember the laundry list from ACOA from yesterday "We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others." She hit right on spot...
Once i knew its the guilt it was easy for me to let go and move on with the day... The Screaming colleague was apologetic within few hours.
You just helped me an awful lot, today. Thank You, Daystar!
And glad you found a way to take care of yourself. Screaming colleague notwithstanding. WTF?
Glad the sentence helped you too..
I am thankful for the recovery.
I have been giving people who normally put me down and try to control what I think a piece of my mind lately and they don't really like it.... But I don't care. If they can't accept that change in me then they will move on to someone else to try and control. If they don't see me as anything more than someone to mess with, then they can move on.... I am no longer withdrawing from people, just standing up and speaking out. Then it's up to them.
Sorry I had a lot to say, had kind of a DAY today, lol
Best of luck and way to go again!!!
I agree. And I had a bit of negative interaction with my sister today. Thanks for posting, Daystar.
Shar