Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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I need encouragement to break the cycle

reddheart27
reddheart27

5 years ago I realized that I suffered from codependency. I want to have an amazing relationship with a man I always fall for guys I know there is no future with in the moment I meet them I get lost in the fake dream of this being “different.” I’m getting so tired and scared to fall for another guy because this cycle never ends. I know it’s wrong but it’s been my normal for so long how do I find healthier relationships? 

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I was always looking for love in the outside world which was a burden to my loved ones, at times. I needed to love myself first before I could love another human being otherwise, I was constantly reaching, looking for others to supply something which I was unwilling to give myself! This might help.

https://www.wikihow.com/Love-Yourself


God Bless
reddheart27
reddheart27
Thank you. I really appreciate the link and the perspective.(:
animeta
animeta
Redd I understand exactly how you feel and my heart hurts for the both of us. My last relationship led to my discovery of my codependency as it completely depleted who I was. Broke up and am starting over. I’m hoping to walk away not completely blaming myself and being more mindful of choosing unavailable men. Men who I feel I will have to care for. My last relationship- I didn’t think he was someone I pitied at first, but looking back, I can see where it began. He was a very cold and unappreciative and emotionally unavailable alcoholic which also meant my need to be needed was forcefully rejected. I know it won’t be a cycle for me. And it doesn’t have to be a cycle for you.
I also found this nice quote http://lessshymorefly.tumblr.com/post/169985687499
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